Widows & Widowers Support Group
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As you all know that know me it will be 3 years in September that my wife passed. For those that are new my profile is open, and I won't rewrite it here. My problem for all these 3 years is not getting sleep. I have tried a lot of things. First the most popular, alcohol, not good. Sleeping pills, melatonin, meditation, no caffeine, etc. Let me give last night for example. I made up my mind to do nothing to enhance my sleep as a baseline. Tried to go to bed at 11pm. Was still wide awake at 2am. Got up for a few minutes laid back down and slept for maybe an hour and back up at a little after 3am. I think I dozed off around 4 and woke up at 5:30am. I have to get up for work at 6am so I just got up for the day. So I got probably 2.5 maybe 3 hours sleep. This is typical. All the ways I have tried to enhance my sleep leads to all having their own type of hangover and I feel worse.
I just figured you all may have something that works for you and I'm willing to try anything. Someone told me to try Valerian root, and I ordered some of that. I would prefer to go the holistic route if possible.
Thanks everyone, love you all.
Jeff
I just figured you all may have something that works for you and I'm willing to try anything. Someone told me to try Valerian root, and I ordered some of that. I would prefer to go the holistic route if possible.
Thanks everyone, love you all.
Jeff
The only thing I've found to help a bit is leaving the radio on low all night.
All the best, Sandy
I have Netflix on my iPad. There's a couple movies that I've watched so many times that I know the plots/dialog inside out. Current favourite is Star Trek Insurrection...previously it was Pride and Prejudice.
If I find I wake in the middle of the night, and my brain is buzzing, I'm stewing about past hurts, the dreaded "I-shoulda"s or the nasty "What-if"s... then I put the movie on...I don't even watch it. Listening to the dialog distracts me enough that I can fall back asleep.
If nothing else, I get to stare at Patrick Stewart or Colin Firth for part of the night. Sigh...