Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I am a brand new member. My husband passed away 6 weeks ago. I found this support group a few weeks ago and whenever I was feeling sad I would read the messages. The messages really help me to realize that what I am feeling is "normal" under the circumstances and most important I am not alone. I find I have lots of friends to do things with, as I am blessed with an awesome support system, but I have no one to do nothing with, No one to just have a coffee with late at night. I miss the times we would just sit and not speak but just be together watching the sun go down. Or early morning sunrise. Due to the fact my husband was so sick the past few years, I had to take care of the finances and household chores. I am so grateful that I don't feel overwhelmed by those tasks but I still would talk over decisions with my husband. The one thing I am most surprised at is that is has only been 6 weeks but it seems so long ago! So much has happened! I have tried to keep myself very busy. A way for me to cope I suppose. Anyways I just wanted to say hello. Hugs to all.
"Hey, honey!" would greet me, every evening, after work.
Not anymore...
Just coming on this site and reading what others are feeling and going was such a help. It let me know that I was as normal as I could be under the circumstances.
There is always someone here who can identify with what you are going through. Hugs to you, Norma
Last Friday I had the first morning I did not wake up in tears....that lasted about a week, and now I am back to square one. The pain just physically hurts. Family does not understand....just get out of the house they say....do they really think that is going to make it better!!! I get so angry.
It's been almost 3 years for me. Two days ago, I decided to go to the restaurant where we would frequently get some comfort food. The waitress immediately said out loud what I would ordered. Wow she remembered after 3 years. I also ordered the favorite dish to go that my husband loved. When my dish came, my stomach just cramped up and I couldn't really eat, just the feeling I had when I got the news that my husband had passed away. Some situation still triggers that hurt and lost feeling. It will get better as time goes by. Take care.
Doye