Hi Darlene,
I missed you!! I've joined Hopeful Hearts which has helped me move through this journey.

I can't hardly believe that I am at 2 years and 7 months now.

Nessie from KY

I am now at 16 months, but there are times I come here to visit with those that understand. Some here, that have been friends for me. Helped as I wavered. I see a lot of new faces, which is saddening it'self. But by sharing where you are, it is a more realistic view of what the future holds. We will always feel loss of our partner, even those that have found new love. They will say that birthdays, anniversaries and just plain moments that echo our mates, will refresh the loss.
I have been here long enough to see what happens when a timeline is rushed, we need to get our bearings first. Also that some can cope easier than others.

Everyone is different in how they heal from this. There is no right or wrong timeline. At the age of 50'ish, this world for us has built in restrictions. We don't go out looking for a replacement, since so many years with one person, has set us in our ways.
John was great for me. Do I think there is another like that around the corner? Not likely, they couldn't put up with me. Will I continue to miss him? God I hope so, because he was that much to me.
We are the ones loved, so it hurts, but we were loved.

Hi, Darlene,
I am glad that you decided to rejoin this group of wonderful people. Although I post very little, I visit this site quite often. I am at a little over three years since I lost my dear husband, and I realize that, by reading others' posts, that I am not alone with my thoughts and feelings. I miss my husband terribly and have no idea what the future holds, seems like I am just drifting along and trying to figure out what life means for me now. Only those who have been through the pain of losing someone they love so much can truly understand.
Roxanne

Hi Darlene, and welcome back! I am sorry somebody told you that being here was not good for you. I had the same kind of nonsense thrown at me at the same time that DS was helping me rebuild my life. It seems that because some people are too scared to deal with the topic of loss that they don't want us to deal with it either. To me it's a bit like thinking if you close your eyes all the problems would go away. If I can't see them, they must not be there! Well, we're people, not ostriches! And as awful a thing it is to confront, we really are better off facing it, with others for support.

Love and Hugs from across the pond,
Martha

Hi Darlene, Happy to welcome you back with us. I was told similar things like it must be depressing here. I tried to explain it is amazing to see people change and find life after such devastation. Not necessarily a partner, but the ability to find the strength to rebuild themself. It's was six years for me this past summer and I will always have a tender spot thinking of my husband, but it is with fondness and love now, and many less tears. How can this be bad? Sharon

I love to read some of the posts and sometimes I get too sad to continue reading. DS has helped me not feeling as alone knowing we are all going through the same thing. Thank you.