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Is it just me..

edithbathgate
edithbathgate
Is it just me or are the rest of you hypersensative to slights, real or imagined, hurt feeling, etc. Is it me or part of the depression thing. I've had so many hurt feelings that I am ignoring them now! There can't be this many rude people in my life. In fact, I know there aren't.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Not only am I more sensitive than ever, at certain actions and remarks, but, my whole brain seems to be reacting to the grief, weirdly.
Never, have I been so scattered, forgetful, and unable to concentrate.
I am forever worried I forgot to lock the doors, turned something off, etc.
I looked at the calendar yesterday, and thought it's been 5 weeks, since he died, but, it was 9 weeks. Is forgetfulness normal in grief too?
jerseydebbie
jerseydebbie
I think we are always on the offensive, especially with remarks and suggestions from "well-meaning" people. It seems to come with the territory of grief and loss that we feel we always need to explain ourselves.

Now the philosophy I take is that I don't take this person home with me, and they don't sleep in my bed. So what they said and do doesn't matter much to me. It is what I think and do that counts.