I have noticed that as well. Everybody is at a different place emotionally. Personally I have learned to be like a duck and let it roll off my back like water does. Otherwise I would spend all my time being upset. Life is too short. I am not judging others, just sharing my experience with all of these overwhelming feelings.

Hugs to all
Karl

not just you. With all the stress we have in our lives it doesn't take much. I have to decompress at home ;-)

I find that I confront people now more than before. I was very shy when Jerry was around (instant protection). Now - I just get it out , and say what I'm thinking. Often it's a misunderstanding, and people don't do it intentionally. I know I often just blurt out things, and expect my friends to be forgiving too. I agree - life is too short.

How dare you accuse me of being hypersensitive!
Well, of all the nerve!
I never!
Ken

Yes, I think that all of us take things very much to heart these days. I find that my temper is shorter and that I do not have time for the crap. But, I also do recognize that I am super sensitive and do not hold my hurt feelings against others. I just figure it is my problem and go on with my day. I agree with Karl, life is too short.....Hugs, Dawn

OH Ken yes I am!! get over it. (smile) I could not resist.


While life is too short, and I try - I do find my feelings are hurt easily these times. I try not to judge but catch myself - have to shake myself up and down - give me a talking to and all that...
I am practicing my brother "Yeah, ok whatever" His favorite words when people were giving him a what for....He did 3 tours of Vietnam, came back quite different, he never lets nothing get to him, SO I decided to practice these words taken from him....

I'm not so sure. I was more sensitive the first year, but I also found more people said insenstive things to me. You know, stuff like when are you getting married again(just one month after my husband passed). I think some people enjoy kicking you when you're down too. We don't have our protectors anymore, so it makes it easier.

Who me? No way not me LOL

I think grief just brings out so many emotions that most the time we are on overload just dealing with the simplest thing.
Cie

I try not to be..but every once in a while when someone asks a rude question...my sensitivity does get a little hyper haha!! But I do well in controlling them...bite tongue (not theirs) and calmly walk away...Blessings~ Debbie :)

I try not to let everything get to me, but there are some real mental minions out there that just can't STFU and back off. They think they have to come up with some cute little catch phrase that is supposed to make me feel better. I have become the person that gets the final word in, and often times it is not a nice word.

Maggie

Thanks guys, for your answers and the laughs. I'm glad I'm not alone in this. Think I'll go the duck route and let it roll off me.

I do think we are more sensitive now, how could we not be? Our emotions are still so raw. I also think though that people can be really insensitive---some of the things people say can just blow your mind---from "you will find someone else" GOOD GRIEF, I was married to this man for 40 years, I'm not even THINKING about finding someone else, to "you should be rejoicing instead of grieving, he's in a better place"---that sounds great but sorry, the pain is still there, I miss him and it hurts. I guess it's just something we have to deal with and as you say, just try to let it roll off of your back. It't not always easy though.

I don't have anywhere near the patience or understanding to put up with BS anymore. My priorities are way different from other people, my fears and anxieties are way different, how could they not be? Grieving burns off all the layers of shielding that we have. Sometimes that means that the least little thing will put us into tears and other times it means they are going to piss us off and WATCH OUT! It sort of becomes a 'what's the worst that you can do to me?' kind of thing. I had the love of my life die in my arms - think you can top that??!? Don't think so....

It takes some time and effort to get back into a reasonable balance. My skin is thicker now, and my temper more under control. I did recognize, however, that I am a grown-up, and grown-ups get to decide if something is forgivable or not, and whether someone deserves our friendship or not.

You are not alone.

Love and Hugs, Martha

You bet! Everyone is rude and has an amazing attitude lately. Could'nt be me. I think too that I just don't put up with the BS and if someone is rude I just call it out. Mad old widda lady, watch out!
Cindy xxoo

I know you are right, and we are all at different points in our journey. I find that I dont watch certain TV shows that show to much reality on the subject of death. I find myself feeling bad about certain characters on the boob tube and the news. My heart goes out to everyone that is suffering. And as far as comments from those I knowI believe they are trying to help me, but for those that havent been there I am sure its just a lack of understanding and its with good intentions. My goal in life that I made many years ago is to be a kinder and gentler person. My wife said I wasnt doing to bad either at it. Now I feel as though I am just a little too emotional inside. Every time I come to this site, its guaranteed that I will have tears flowing after reading certain postings and a better understanding of my journey, and that there is a special bond I feel with all of you here. I think you all are great and have helped me so very much. Thank-you
Take care jim