Widows & Widowers Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have lost a husband, wife, or partner. Anything is open for discussion here, with the hope that we can focus on grief, bereavement, life after loss, and continuing on after a great loss.
I saw this article on line and thought it had some good wisdom to offer.
1) You will feel like the world has ended. I promise, it hasn’t. Life will go
on, slowly. A new normal will come, slowly.
2. No matter how bad a day feels, it is only a day. When
you go to sleep crying, you will wake up to a new day.
3. Grief comes in waves. You might be okay one hour, not okay the next. Okay one day, not okay the next day. Okay one month, not okay the next. Learn to go with the flow of what your heart and mind are feeling.
4. It’s okay to cry. Do it often. But it’s okay to laugh, too. Don’t feel guilty for feeling positive emotions even when dealing with loss.
5. Take care of yourself, even if you don’t feel like it. Eat healthily. Work out. Do the things you love. Remember that you are still living.
6. Don’t shut people out. Don’t cut yourself off from relationships. It’s healthy
to need people.
7. No one will respond perfectly to your grief. People–even people you love–will let you down. Friends you thought would be there won’t be there, and people you hardly know will reach out. Be prepared to give others grace. Be prepared to work through hurt and forgiveness at others’ reactions.
8. God will be there for you perfectly. He will never, ever let you down. He will let you scream, cry, and question. Throw all your emotions at Him. He is near to those in need when you ask for help.
9. Take time to truly remember the person you lost. Write about him or her, go back to all your memories with them, truly soak in all the good times you had with that person. It will help.
10. Facing the grief is better than running. Don’t hide from the pain. If you do, it can grow, and consume you.
11. You will ask “Why?” more times than you thought possible, but you may never get an answer. What helps is asking, “How? How can I live life more fully to honor my loved one? How can I love better, how can I embrace others, how can I change and grow because of this?”
12. You will try to escape grief by getting busy, busy, busy. You will think that if you don’t think about it, it’ll just go away. This isn’t really true. Take time to process and heal.
13. Liquor, sex, street drugs, etc., will not take the pain away. Seek help if you’re dealing with the sorrow in unhealthy ways.
14. It’s okay to ask for help. It’s okay to need people. It’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay.
15. Grief can be deep and profound experience. Don’t be afraid of it. Walk alongside it. You may be surprised at what grief can teach you.
By Taryn O’Brien
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Okjunebug, your so welcome, my best wishes to you!
Gabrielworld, your most welcome!
memorial service, and that it gave you comfort. That's wonderful!
When I lost my brother, age 35, (in a car accident) I actually went on an antidepressant
for 6 month, which really helped. Recently I lost my cat, and I found that 5HTP Natrol brand,
taken with pomegranate juice, boosted my serotonin, which helped. And of course there
are other natural supplements. I also learned a emotional release exercise, that has been a
Godsend, if you interested I could send it to you. Eventually, slowly, gradually you'll begin to
feel that love again within your heart, that love is still within you, it can be covered up by grief, but that love within your heart is still there, my hope is that you start to feel a little better every week. I'm going to say a prayer for you! I hope it will help, if you need to talk more feel free to send me a e-mail. {{{{{Gentle Hugs}}}}} Lucia
actually go too, not sure if this will help you, but I'm hoping you might find other
other people in your area who understand, if you interested here is website: griefshare.org
I'll say a prayer for you as well! I feel for you, I think it would be most difficult g-rief ever,
to lose your husband. God Bless, Lucia