Widows & Widowers Support Group

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Truhal
Truhal
I'm new to this group. I have an 82 year old father that has mental issues. I'm recently widowed so I moved in with dad to help him financially. That lasted less than two months, his cruelty took my breath away and I found myself battling depression and high blood pressure due to the constant stress of dealing with him. He has always been that way, so this is not age related.

I'm just so tired. He is getting worse and there is no one else that can help. I'm alone so I joined this group to have others who understand what I'm going through.
Truhal
Truhal
Sorry guys, posted to the wrong group.
deleted_user
deleted_user
Lol - I know it is late but I thought I was seeing things because I know you are not new here. I am sorry that things are getting worse with him. I remember when you moved in with him for that short period of time. It is sad that you have no one who can help you. You have gone through enough with the loss of your husband & I can imagine between his loss & your dad, it is really taking a toll on you. I hope you can get some help from the group yu just joined. CHERI
deleted_user
deleted_user
Oh Truhal, I feel for you. Are there any social agencies who can help? I hope you find peace soon. Terry
deleted_user
deleted_user
my dad suffers also we have too se the better in all of us
songsofthenight
songsofthenight
LOL...Ditto, first thought my computer brought up an email from months ago, second thought OMG I'm not back a few months ago, am I? Don't know if I could redo the past few months... but seriously, sorry you are having a rough time...went to the doctor Friday and told him about bigbear and all my problems since he died, you name it I've probably got it, had it or will have it but I find with people like you it makes my day brighter and easier to live, I just wanted to let you know what YOU do for me......thanks for being you...hugs, Sandi
deleted_user
deleted_user
Hi Tru
Ive read you post several times, wishing for any words I could offer of comfort. I just want to let you know your in my thoughts. Hoping and praying you will find some peace and comfort. Have you considered taking short temporary breaks by listening to music via earphones and whenever you see him talking just respond with a smile and words for him not to worry. Hugs ~heartbrokin~