Victims of Psychopaths Community Group
Is he or she a sociopath or psychopath? Think we're only talking about serial killers here? Psychopaths, sociopaths and even narcissists come in every walk of life, every career level, and every socio-economic category.
He keeps calling me , text me, leaving messages. He keeps saying he needs to talk to me. Honestly it's kinda scary. I never picked up. I don't want to talk to him. I found 15 calls in the last two hours.
By accusing you of seeing someone else, he's blame shifting, deflecting back the harm he has caused you. He does not have to take responsibility for his actions if he can blame it all on you. Do not listen to this nonesense. Maybe he is judging you by his own standards also, whatever his reasons for saying these things, they are completely self serving.
You do not owe him any explanations, he forfeited that luxury when he mistreated you. (who do they think they are?). Do not reply, if you can switch your phone off, even better. Go back to it later when you are feeling less vulnerable. He is trying to play mind games, to get you to react to him.
There is no logic, but if you want some, (and I am basing this on usual P pattern, not any specific towards yours), he probably really means one of the following:
"It's OK if you have someone else" can mean he's trying to make you feel less threatened, like he's not really upset with you, just wants to talk. NOT!
Or by referring to you having found someone else, that explains why you're gone. Because of course it could not have been you.
I think the worst ones my XH sent me during our separation were our wedding song and other nonstop romantic attempting emails/poems/songs. This was after our court-mandated conciliation visit with a psychologist in which he flat out said he'd rather get divorced than go see a psychologist/therapist. And she immediately said basically well, then, it is really over, and OK'd our divorce proceedings. Of course, the absolute worst were his veiled threats and intimidation. And since then, even 2 years post-divorce, he threatens me and my family, but they are passive threats so I can't do much law enforcement-wise.
If you really think he's a P or very P-like, stay away. Don't listen. Put your energies elsewhere.
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Or by referring to you having found someone else, that explains why you're gone. Because of course it could not have been HIM!
By this I mean that for Ps, it's never their fault because they are perfect in their eyes.
I wish to turn off my phone but I receive calls from my job every day so I can't.
Yeah it could be a good idea to go away this week end . He knows where I live , it could be bad if he show up. But I don't think he will because he threted people in the building and I'm sure this time they will not wait one second to call the police if they see him.
Bella I guess you are right. He may have few girls and he would assume I do have guys on the side too that it's kinda offensive because when I love someone I really love. So it will take time even to think to another gu
This behavior is sick and heartless.
For now I feel strong.....I hope to keep feeling like that. Hugs back to you bella.
I hope to keep feeling like that.