Two years are a long time. Lol. You went back for more torture? Did you know he was P?

You are right a normal person would never behave like he is. Seriously. I hope to feel better at this thing with my friend. It really bothers me.

Oh that s so interesting about the Stockholm syndrome.... I have it! I m reading about it.

I was in complete self denial nutellina ... it was a crazy time in my life.

Whenever you feel the pull of that bond ... remind yourself of some of his behaviour, and ask yourself 'would a normal person behave in this way?

Read as much as you can and slowly the truth will unravel before your eyes.

Yes, Stockholm Syndrome is very interesting 8)

I think my five year old is displaying SS. Is it normal for young children to?

Many I m reading it and it actually explain very well the mechanism. It s very interesting, it s exactly what happened. Only lil kindness it s like he did something huge.

I know what you are saying. Being in denial and trying to give an explanation to everything that happened plus being attached is very difficult to go over it

Emysty I guess he win this time if his behavior bothers me so much. He knows I got hurt from my ex that he was flirting with my students. So I guess that s what I have to aspect now.

From what I was reading it could be possible to find similar behavior in younger children.

I guess he knows exactly what he is doing. He is trying to cause a rift between you and your friend. If he thought you were both laughing about him behind his back at his sad attempts to get her attention he would no doubt stop texting. So maybe being a good friend she could text him that you and her are way too busy having so much fun and that he is being pathetic so please stop texting as its becoming beyond a joke now?

November do you think for P that will work?

That s crazy but this thing made me very insecure.... What about if he will be able to get her and they will get together? I know I m not loosing anything good but it bothers me. She kinda hates him thought.

Nutellina - this is just my opinion. But I believe in no contact for a reason. I would never engage in anything with this S. Not even through your friend. The reality of this is that you must be prepared that even if she does decide to engage in meeting with him that it is no longer your concern. That is true no contact. From my reading and experience, you will lose when trying to "fool" him or play his games. From what you said your friend is not interested so dont feed any more energy in the possibility. And if she does engage in anything with him you MUST disassociate with her. It sounds really harsh but trust me, the only way to heal is to get the hell away from the S. And I mean in your mind as well. Dont give him your energy. Dont give him your fear. No matter what happens you WILL be OK. But engaging in "what if" is the same crazy making that got you where you are now. Tell yourself WHO CARES what he does. YOU are no longer going to allow yourself to be CONTROLLED by him, even at the hands of your friend. DO NOT LET FEAR control you. It is a lie.

This is gaslighting Nutelina. First psycho I met did exactly this. They love to cause problems. To make you feel insecure and weak. What he is doing is pressing your buttons.

He knew (because of how you reacted before) that you would get jealous. You are ignoring him. Doing no contact. So, he thinks what is going to press her buttons and get her to respond? Gaslighting....

Remember that he is manipulative and this is just a game. Try not to bite!!!

I agree. For your friend to ignore him. Totally. Does give the strongest message.

Thank you so much to be here for me. I need time to process it I guess. I freak out when something new happen. It s like I get over his behavior and something new comes out every time. It s such a waist of energy. I know I just have to ignore completely and I ll keep doing that. He is still ruin my life indirectly and I need to keep him out of my heart.

My ex added two of my (attractive) female colleagues on facebook when we were together. With one of them he evan talked on msn. I don´t know why. Maybe to make me jelouse. I wasn´t jealous at all. After we broke up, he started talking to my best friend at that time, telling her good things about me, but at the same time treating me like a shit. At the same time he accidently met my other attractive colleague and also started to talk good about me. I was confused. But now I realize that he was probably trying to get in their pants and was using me just to pretend to be a good guy. I can´t believe he evan wanted to seduce my best friend. He didn´t make it, luckily, she couldn´t stand him.

It's a good think he was saying good things abou you at least. But maybe it was just a was to date them as you say.
My friend hate him for what he did to me and she doesn t answer him as well. Yesterday he kept texting her all day even if she didn t reply. Not normal.

He is hardly going to slag you off to your friends, the charm offensive would be their approach of choice I reckon. By saying nice things, it's almost a stealth method of worming your way into someones good books (for whatever reason)