My ex psycho tried to add a guy (on facebook) that I have known for 20 years. He sent him a friend's request but then couldn't resist bragging to me that he had been talking to him (which wasn't true) and even said my friend (Rob) had asked him to come and see his band (more total untruths).

I spoke to Rob immediately and he said that the a guy kept trying to add him, and because he didn't recognise his name he rejected the friends request. He asked my exs name and it was confirmed that it was indeed my ex psycho. Rob immediately blocked him.

My psycho was jealous of my relationship with Rob, and yet i never made any secret of who my good friends were and had nothing to hide (what a mistake that was). none of my friends ever wanted anything to do with him, and he tried to get inside my head by making out that he was getting friendly with someone I trusted.

He is playing games, of course he knows it will get back to you and he wants to show you that he can infiltrate your life whether you like it or not. She needs to support you on this like my friend did and put him in his place by ignoring him or telling him to get lost.

He keeps texting my friend. He sent her cute pictures of some dolphins. Does he trying to go with my friend now? This is bothering me very much. I know she will not answer to him because she saw how crazy he is, but I feel jealous. It's stupid isn't it? Why doesn't he just try to get other girls then? He wants to go with my friend?? really???? I'm very upset. I would like to text him saying :"stop bothering my friends". My I know I have to stay no contact.

But see?? your friend was a guy, this friend of mine is a girl. He he already tried to flirt with her in the past.

You have a good friend.....no many people would stay truthfull to you.

I meant that there are good friends and not good ones.....sorry if I didn't write very well.

He wants you to feel jealous .. he wants you to think he is getting her onside .. he's trying to get inside your head. You must talk to your friend and make her understand that he is using her to get to you.

My friend Rob is a good person, I went out with him 20 years ago and so he knows that what I am telling him is the truth .. he trusts me and vice versa. I went off to uni and he married someone else but we stayed friends over the years. I could not afford to let my psycho ex ruin my friendship so I acted quickly.

Do you think that what he is doing? She knows already who he is and she stays away because she knows he is dangerous!

It s a blessing to have good friends around and especially if you were in that situation .

I couldn't care less if my psycho ex started hanging round my female mates. None of them actually like him so he would be wasting his time. And if they chose to get involved then it's on their neck not mine. I think they would work out very quickly why I dumped him! 8)

it's definitely what he is doing ... another of his many tactics in that mentalist toolbox to try and harm you indirectly. I know it's difficult not to react, I can relate 100% .. but you need to ride the storm and do not respond to this nonesense. You are worth more than this!

See you are much better then me. Or maybe it s because not so much time is passed?? Not sure. But it bothers me.... I don t want him back of course, but I got jealous. I don t like this.

I'm 5 months out of my *nightmare* .. and have been where you are now .. many many times .. but it gets easier. you are now seeing him for what he is, and someday you will look back and realise you had a lucky escape. It isn't easy (by any means) as you are still bonded to him, but the longer you stay away, the more f**ked up he will appear to you, and you will start to detach yourself.

Jealousy is a powerful emotion and the desire to react will be very strong .. he wants that reaction and is going to great lengths to get it (in my opinion)

I'm trying to stay strong and not to get affected from this. And you are helping so much in this thank you. I really need help when something happen. You have more experience than me with this behavior .

5 months is not that long either. You have being very strong and determinate. How long were you with him??

I really hope it will get easier. I already start to seeing how crazy it was for me accepting his behavior, but I still attached .

What can he do that beside to trying to contact me or my friends? There are no many others way to try to get into my life again.

I was with him just over 2 years but i left him numerous times and went back for more torture 8)

It will get easier, I promise. He is playing games with you, because that's what they do. (plain and simple). he is crazy .. look what he is resorting to?? .. is that how a well balanced mind behaves??

You are bonded to him ..read about trauma bonds and stockholm syndrome to understand this attachment you feel towards your abuser.

'Trauma bonding makes it easier for a individual to survive within the relationship, but it severely undermines the individuals self-structures, undermining their ability to accurately evaluate danger, and impairs their ability to perceive of alternatives to the situation'

'Many individuals feel the compulsion to tell and retell the events of the trauma in an attempt to come to terms with what happened to them and to try to integrate it, reaching out to others for contact, safety, and stability. The trauma bond can persist even after the individual leaves the relationship, with it sometimes taking months, or even years, for them to completely break the bond'

You said, "this is bothering me so much". That is exactly why he is doing it.
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