I think you should speak with a therapist. It is devastating what happened to you, but you can recover in time with medication maybe as well. My ex took his life after being robbed by a sociopath and it destroyed him. That breaks my heart. You are lucky to have gotten away from him. Seek professional help so you will not make the same mistakes again. Good luck!

Dana,

I would be happy to have a live conversation with you at some point. I think it would have to be next week though as I have deailings going on with my P ex and a load of other commitments. If you would like, send me a private message and I will respond in between other things I am doing.

I am sorry for what you are going through. At last here, you will see that you are not alone. It upsets me that therapists so rarely recognize a sociopath in their office. Hugs.

Kris

ashero, You are right about a therapist, but sometimes an hour a week is not enough to get you through.

I'm so sorry you were victimized, DenverDana. You've found a good forum to help you heal. These dark monsters create so much pain for their victims. The cruel manipulations, pathological lying, and love bombing can weave their web of deception and pull us in. You're not alone on your journey. Like many of us here, you were wanting to help him.... to fix him. Praying your heart heals, and I'm glad you are wanting to talk. Keeping it bottled up can be even more hurtful.

I agree with the others that therapy and counseling can be quite beneficial, and venting and posting here is helpful, too. It takes time to overcome being emotionally traumatized, which is something I had to finally realize. Best of luck to you!

hun in my opinion you dont need medication to heal and recover from a sociopath. and a lot of us cant afford a therapist and recover just fine here with a little help from our friends. we have been where you are some more than others. but you will get through this. when it happens to you , you feel pretty alone and well stupid for letting it happen but your not. read the stories here and educate yourself what a sociopath is until your blue in the face. you couldnt have stopped any of this from happening if you tried. dont beat your self up its not your fault. its a long healing process but it can be done just dont give up. move forward knowing you are not alone in this. you have come to the right place.

I am suffering from being stupid enough to see my latest sociopath again after a year and its like he ripped the scab off and I am starting over to heal. I definitely went backwards emotionally and now I am renting a room from a sociopath. I need to move but my hand is in a cast and I have paid for month of April. He kept borrowing money and I was stupid enough to lend it to him or pay ahead of time. I have money to move but need to get my cast off my hand first and that is supposed to happen next week. Im frustrated and I am in a holding pattern.

I've seen a counselor twice who specializes with addictions. I think it would help me to talk with someone who has actually been in a relationship with a sociopath. They do such horrible things to their victims emotionally, financially, mentally, spiritually. The guy I was with robbed me of motivation and happiness. Most days I feel really bad and don't want to go on, but I don't want him to "win" that way. He's already pillaging another woman who has no idea that he's using her for sex, money, and a place to live. She thinks they are "soul mates". I have been betrayed so many times by him, and then he comes back to tell me about the woman he just pillaged, then goes back to her, then comes back to me, then finds another woman, then goes back to the last one, then comes back to me. He's very mentally unstable, but the problem is I love him. My "real" person fell in love with this "fake" person who is nice, sincere, and in love with me. He can leave me in a heartbeat for another victim and not think about telling me just yesterday he wanted to marry me, he loved me, we're meant for each other.... my emotions are assaulted, and I fall for his lies every time. I'm just now gathering the strength to stay away, but my love for him isn't dead. It's psychologically so damaging every single time. Ugh.

denverdana, can you tell me what you think you love about him? this person treats like shit like all of us have been treated. i understand you think you are in love with him, most of us felt the same way when we got here but its not love its an addiction. please read about sociopaths and narcissists on the internet or through books and videos and u tube. there is a lot of information out there and this is how you are going to understand what you are feeling. this is how you will begin to heal. that and staying away from him and sharing what your going through on here. your not alone in this i have been and felt exactly what you are saying. i know what your going through. but you must help yourself if you want to feel better. by doing that you can change all this. its a slow process but it will happen. have patients and be good to yourself and remember you dont love him you love the person you have created him to be in your mind. we are here for you to dont forget that.

This is realy true. It is not love. It is addiction. If it was love, it has to be something to love and there is not. I need to remind myself a lot of the time how many years I was so nervous every day because i tried to pleace him, and nothing was good enough.

I am not a christian but I know how love in decribed in the bible. Love first of all seek to be the best for the other. What we have been up to is evel.

Yes, it is an addiction.... The sad reality is that the "love" we feel for them is genuine and true, but the "love" from the sociopaths, psychopaths and narcissists is NOT love. It's a forgery, fake and phony... and we can fall down that rabbit hole of believing their lies every time. Unless, we start being realistic and truly honest with ourselves, and really accept that their "love" is a farce, we will continue setting ourselves up for more abuse.

Being in denial, believing they "might" change is a horrendous lie we tell ourselves. We can become masochists as we believe there might be one little iota of hope that the monster will change and become who we want and need them to become. And these sadistic A-holes gobble up our trust and good hearts, then they spit us out.... leaving us shredded and destroyed.

We, and I'm including myself here, need to stop being masochists. We need to start loving ourselves enough to say "no more!". No more abuse and self inflicted pain! Because everytime we allow them to come back into our lives and hearts, we are allowing the pain and torture to have access to our souls. We are the ONLY ones who can truly protect ourselves from these pieces of crap. Bottom line.... we have to gather enough strength within to prop up our backbones and stand up to the evil.

DenverDana, I'm wishing you complete success in overcoming your addiction to your abuser! big huge (((Hugs))) to you!

so true spirit, so true

If I had a dime for every time my P called me her soul mate, I would be rich. It was a trick, a ploy. She could tell how happy it made me feel, and like a drug, I became addicted to hearing it and the other dramatic professions of love she made. I believe someone else has called this "love bombing." But it wasn't love at all, it was a manipulation. Like a drug dealer, she controlled my supply of this commodity, sometimes withholding it for no reason other than to see me suffer.

It is a hard habit to kick, and I am still recovering. But don't fool yourself. You have been used by a very sick person who will think nothing of using you again if you let him.

avram, You are so right. Their abuse never ends. And, they're such good actors! They know how to turn on the water works, boo hooing, and pretending to be so sorry. Promising to never hurt us again, to become better people, to appreciate and treasure us, yet if we look closely as they sputter their lies.... we can see their forked tongues.

I recommend the movie, "Catfish." That is a documentary about a woman who attempts to seduce a young man online by creating a false identity. She even has telephone conversations with him. She concocted amazingly elaborate stories and all sorts of fake profiles of "friends" on Facebook. Even when the filmmakers confronted her with proof of her lies, she continued to lie about other things that they couldn't immediately prove. She did that while professing to make a full confession and apology and turning on the tears.

She is now on Facebook claiming to be 100% cured of her lying. She has one friend.

Bahahaha !!! She has one friend! Now, that's funny.....