He won't care if you ignore his calls, he will call someone else who will answer him, and believe me there is always some one else that will pay attention to these people don't let that person be you! Have satisfaction in blocking him.

Hugs :)

Nuttelina, Neive is absolutely right. If he calls you back, he'll be playing his favourite mind game-to keep you hooked and stuck on him.
That is, if he hasn't already replace you with his new supply victim.
I had the same thoughts some weeks after i broke up with him.(i have to thank again this forum and generally internet information about narcissists, the relevation was really painful but entirely lifesaving-truth always liberates you from deception and manipulative tactics con men use..).
That's what i did: He stopped calling for about two weeks, and just one day after i had the instinct to shut down my cell, boom..he gave signs of his pathetic existence.
After two failed calls he mailed me asking politely how i am doing, my news, ending "waiting for your news" (tactic).
One day later i replied by mail:" My news are that i'm fine. I'm not alone any longer, so there's no reason to chat with you. I wish you the best' (lie, i wish him the worse!)
The whole thing was a lie. I'm totally alone but calm and free from his narc chains.
I know him long enough to sense that this was the only way to keep him far from me.
He again mailed me giving wishes on my nameday-"with respect"
I totally ignored him and intend to do the same on his nameday.
NO CONTACT along with IGNORING (even if you seem uncivilised) is the best tactic ever.
It gives you the only revenge these monsters understand plus it gives you the last,silent but TOO loud for their ears word of : YOU ARE A PIECE OF CRAP, NOT WORTH OF ANYTHING, NOT EVEN SPITTING.
Their false self collapses in frond of their eyes and that is when they feel really worthless...as they really are!
You know what? All this dreadful experience helped me to work off some other frenemies who were taking advantage of my good will-dissapearing and even threatening when words didn't help.
So, my advice is be the master of your life-with courage,strength and faith on yourself-no one else is gonna do it.
Many hugs!

nutelina, Mine will be served with a restraining order Monday morning along with criminal charges when he appears in court.Am I right that they can only play their game if we do not prese charges?

Nutellina - What you are feeling is natural. You felt true emotions and He is incapable. Push through these times. Try as hard as you can NOT to follow your heart. Follow your mind. You know what the future will hold with someone like this and you know that there is never any satisfaction that can be found with these people. It will get better. But for now, please follow what you know to be true. I'm so thankful you got good advice and that you post here. One day at a time sweetie. The only satisfaction that is long lasting is going through the pain to get to the other side. It is a necessary part of healing AND SO WORTH IT IN THE END!!!

Hugs xoxoxo

Peperoni I know you are totally right!!!! I know NC is the best thing.... I just wanna have the opportunity to ignore him at least! But maybe now he knows I know him too well so he already passed to another one. Too bad for me.... I just wanted my revenge!!

Thank you Neive!

Kris.... But you got your revenge e or let s call it justice? Right?

Withconsciec I know you are right and I trust you! And I know I m kinda lucky he is out of my life. I m just so angry to see him succed and me always alone!!!!!

Revenge is a dish best served cold. Anti-socials quite often try to re-engage contact so you might get your opportunity to ignore him yet. However, any contact that he makes with you will just trigger all those bad feelings, the longer you have no contact, the stronger you will become.

Revenge is getting on with your life, walking away from a damaging situation .. putting yourself back together piece by piece .. it takes time.

Nutelina, In my case, it was the only way I could get him to stop his smear campaign against me and to stop taunting me, and attempting to re-engage me, via an e-mail address in which blocking is not possible. And neither is it possible to ditch the address.

Everyone here is right that you need to end contact in order to heal. There is something deeply sick about the way in which a psychopath engages a victim. Inevitably, the victim becomes sick, too. You are not all the way well yet, but you are getting there. Every day that he is not in your life, you are getting better. That is inevitable, too. Even if you don't feel it yet.

Manyrivers, I didn't really do it for revenge. I did it to counteract an evil force that was acting against me. I did it to make the statement that his lies about me are lies. He is, in fact, a pathological liar, an abuser of women, and a criminal.

Many….I do not know if he will ever contact me again but honestly I'm so mad that really it would be a good satisfaction even I know they do not care anyway!

Kris yeah yeah I have no intention to be in contact with him. Last time I broke my NC he was super charming and convincing. If I will ever have the opportunity to ignore him , I will keep NC for sure!
I DO feel sick….I have no idea with all my thoughts go to him all day long. I must be crazy to after all he did to me!

Nutelina,

The dynamic with a psychopath strips you of your humanity. They have none and they destroy yours. They instill all their shitty, hateful, obsessive, fearful, crazy thoughts and feelings into you. The kill off your trust and faith and love and goodness. They inject their own sense of scarcity and hunger into you, making you believe will never feel fulfilled again. But you will.

All of this will go away of its own accord. Because it's not who you are. Its who he is.

I know how painful this is. Just think of it as an illness from which you are going to recover.

Hugs.

I know you are right but at the same time I keep thinking over and over again about my mistakes and I feel guilty. Even mine where not such a big deal compare to his. Just some jealousy time to time….that's the reason he said he left the second time…..he said he wasn't happy……but I really think he was cheating. Maybe since long time but I never thought about it, so when I start to react, he left.

I really do not trust anyone anymore!

Do not blame yourself. I can pretty much guarantee that your "mistakes" were a reaction to some shifty behavior on his part. Often, with a psychopath, your "mistakes" are orchestrated by him because he enjoys witnessing the pain he is causing you, and because he wants to frame you as the wrongdoer. Making mistakes are inevitable with a partner who is torturing you. Ask yourself if your behavior was typical behavior for you, or if it was the typical human reaction to a certain circumstance--in this case, evidence that your partner was cheating.

They LOVE to set up these traps wherein the partner is guaranteed to feel suspicious, insecure, filled with doubt, frightened and angry. Then they keep turning up with fire they have lit underneath you, and watching you cry out in pain.

You will trust people again. You trusted the wrong person.

Honestly no, it was not my normal behavior in fact. I tend to trust people and my partner. In fact I always thought that freedom in a relationship is very good, in the way to not create stress to the other person…..but my fear was to be plaid and waste my time. That I guess is what happened.

What you are saying that they take pleasure in watching us suffer it sounds so inhuman!!!!!! OMG it's terrible!