how do I get someone to help me without my father getting involved and convincing them im crazy.

that has been the cause of all of my problems for the past 10 years. im 30 now but anytime since ive been an adult that I asked anyone to help me, he has either scared them away and told them to get away from me and don't talk to me again, he threatened people such as old friends of mine.

or he manipulates them and lies to get them to think im crazy and that the real problem is that I need psychiatric help. he convinces everyone I have tried to help me, that im schitzophrenic and desperately need psychiatric medication and mental hospital stay.

even tho that's not the case and his stories got me nowhere in life and stuck since then since age 18.

im stuck the same as an adult in the house with my parents since age 18


im 30 now but ive been controlled my whole adult life, infantilized forced to live under control from them so I don't feel independent and confident like other 30 yr olds. its like im starting over. they forced me to live under crazy rules such as them chosing food for me and not allowing a lot of things even teenagers are allowed. they told people I need permission for everything.

they even would call up the local stores when ive been homebound and tell them some story and tell the stores I need permission from my parents first before I can call or order anything. so the store made my parents call each time to give permission, even at my age

I don't know whats going on but my parents tell me that gthey are still raising me, they say things about that I have to be disciplined by them, and my mother threatened to walk out and leave last week after some argument with my older sister and my father is telling me if she leaves I will have to grow up without a mother in the house

I don't think a person who is 30 is growing up, or being raised or supposed to be disciplined by their parents. either my parents don't understand age or they are in a time warp and think its 1994 still and that im underage.

or maybe they pretend its still the 1990s and that im a young kid in order to control me? they are very controlling to me even more controlling sometimes now than they were when I was 12

I don't know if that's a thing that happened before, parents infantilizing and controlling their adult children in their 20s and 30s. its strange. and I tried to stand up to them always because I have asked them to treat me as an adult for years and they never listen and they use threats

my parents impose their fanatical ideas on me and ive been forced to live like that, almost like someone from Saudi Arabia who has to have permission for every aspect from life

I have tried to be independent but my parents are 2 steps ahead of every move. they managed to block my every way out for years by telling everyone that im crazy. they told me no one will believe you because they think you are crazy

I think that's a way they have tried to get me to stay at home

I know both of my parents lived with their parents and siblings until they got married

anyways I want to get someone to come over to help me , either pick me up to take me to the hospital without my parents knowing, or some agency or social work organization to help me and get me out of the home and independence

how do I get anyone to listen to me and actually help me this time. because usually they ask to speak to my parents and when they do it is over for me. my parents convince them that im crazy and don't need any help or that the real story is that I need mental help and need to be in a psych hospital on medication and that im schitzophrenic.

then the person is convinced by my parents that im schitzophrenic. my father usually is the one that tells them the lies and stories to make it look like im schitzophrenic and mentally unstable or danger to myself and others. my mother goes along with the stories. no one stands up for me.

my mother has some mental problems, my older sister tells me she thinks she has bipolar because of the mood swings, angry rages, manic behavior but she also acts self centered with no empathy and narcissistic and dosnt show remorse 99 percent of all situations. so I don't know if she is some type of psychopath.
maybe she has another personality disorder that is a lower level of psychopath or low empathy for others

but my father is a psychopath and lies on purpose and manipulates everyone and does things on purpose. he goes to court always for many different reasons to sue different people and he wins 99 percent of the court cases. he holds grudges over small things that happened 2 decades ago and looks to get revenge for those things


even if he is wrong and the other person is not at fault, he convinces any judge.


im scared because each time I tell my story to someone and ask them for help. then they speak to my father and he adds horrible details or makes the situation seem different and convinces the person not to help me and that instead they should help him commit me to a psych hospital

I think he does the thing to get revenge at me for attempting to go away to be independent.

I don't know why. he would call up doctors and professionals and tell them false information about me.

I was in the emergency room because I stepped on something and hurt my foot by accident on a cat food can when walking. and he uses any opportunity when im in the emergency room to try to get me commited or give out fake information to doctors. he called the head nurse of the emergency room when I was there to tell them fake information about me that I have diabetes and that I was suicidal and other things.

I don't have diabetes. and I was not suicidal. I wasn't a danger to myself or other

he gives out other fake information other times to doctors , he called the emergency room other times and told them I didn't take my medication for the day and he told them the name of some medication that I was not prescribed and never took before. he made up a fake dose too but he knows many things about certain medications. he reads things on medications

he told them don't listen to me and to give me my medication , so he convinced them without them checking or calling any doctor to see if I was on that medication.

and they forced me to take the medication and I was allergic to it and had a severe allergic reaction and my jaw became paralyzed for a day from it and I broke 4 teeth in the back by the jaw from trying to open my jaw. so those teeth are lost and need to be replaces, root canals, implant

because my father thought it would be funny to lie to them to tell them to give me medication im allergic to and wasn't prescribed

I had to go get shots of Benadryl at another hospital after I left the er because I had a severe allergic reaction

he gets people to believe anything and to put my life in danger. even medical professionals who are supposed to look out for me

they don't even double check what he says to them to make sure its true. he can convince anyone

I might be able to sue these hospitals or even sue my parents for neglect and for the years of abuse and lies

but in the meantime I need to get someone to help me get out of the situation. but I need to find out how to get people to listen to me finally for once

without my father getting involved to tell them that im crazy so they don't help me

I cant sue anyone yet until I get safe away in a place that I can be on my own and recover from my medical problem. I cant deal with any lawsuit until I recover from my serious medical illness.

but I can only recover if I go out of the house to stay in another place. I cant live in any group setting or around others because my illness can be contagious if I share any bathroom or living areas. right now im confined to a separate designated room in the house with the door closed and separate bathroom nearby. and my room upstairs

also because of my illness and the tiredness, lethargic weakness I was not able to look out for myself or clean my room for the last 3 yrs. when I asked for help no one at home would listen to me. so my room got very messy over time, piles of stuff, clothes on floor,etc. because I had no one to help me. I also had a tia stroke last year from my illness so I was severely tired after for months and could not do anything.

so im afraid my father will tell people about that and blame it on "schitzophrenia" even tho its not that its that I was severely sick for years and too tired , weak to look after things or pick things up. I had mobility issues too

and he might use that as another excuse against me to get people to think im insane.

it sounds strange from the outside like why is a 30 yr old afraid of her parents. my parents are in their mid and late 60s.

but from my point of view ive been through a lot of things and have had a medical problem the last almost 5 yrs and another thing before that . and my parents are different than other parents and more manipulative and controlling than others. so I have never been able to stand up to them. even when I attempted to. but standing up to a person who has no remorse and is psychopathic dosnt help that causes more issues

from everything ive been through I didn't get to go through life and learn things and make mistakes and chose things for myself so im not a confident adult even tho in some ways im more wise and mature than people my age and I seem more like 50 some days or in certain situations

I think I will always be afraid of my parents even when they are 90. but the best thing I can do is distance myself from them and stay away from their threats. i think they are the type of people who will try to control me and make me cry until the last chance they get even when they are 95 or until they get alzheimers and forget who i am. who knows, but i think i will never have any normal relationship to my parents, they will never accept me or think im good enough. they always tell me they hate me. they know what to say to get me to be scared or upset. they even know what things to say to bring back my ptsd from all the things they did to me

i think people don't understand if i say im scared of them or cant stand up for myself. but not everyone will understand the situation.

according to my other siblings guidance counselor at her school a few years ago when she was in highschool after she met my parents she said to my sister that they are the most controlling and at the same time neglectful parents she has ever seen in her entire 20 yr career at the school. they don't help you or let you do things to improve yourself but at the same time they control you to stop you from bettering things