Victims of Narcissistic Mothers Community Group
Have you suffered because of a mother who you were never good enough for, that only pointed out your weaknesses, who ignored and neglected you? This group is for people who have suffered at the hands of the mother that should have loved them. Here you can be free to discuss your problems, frustrations and fears. We understand because we have been there too. Our goal is to...
I don't know if I can say I have a narcisistic mother, but I do have a mother who does not like females (unless you do exactly what your told to do). I was always thinking of myself, I was Cinderilla with 3 brothers. I was treated unfairly and as time goes on I remember more and more--
The crap that I went through growing up really is upsetting. My mom is still alive but I haven't spoke to her in over 16 years. I can't handle the pain, always walking on eggshells around her.
Example: I'm from a fairly large family (cousins). When I was on my mothers hit list, no one and I mean no one can mention my name, talk to me anything. To this day her own brothers and sisters don't tell her that I'm talking to them. I missed so much of my nephews and neices now they are adults some are getting married and I'm not invited to the wedding because of her--
ok just a start--as time goes on more to come
I will be venting if thats ok please!
Thanks for starting this group--I hope we will get more members to help overcome the powers of our ill mothers!
The crap that I went through growing up really is upsetting. My mom is still alive but I haven't spoke to her in over 16 years. I can't handle the pain, always walking on eggshells around her.
Example: I'm from a fairly large family (cousins). When I was on my mothers hit list, no one and I mean no one can mention my name, talk to me anything. To this day her own brothers and sisters don't tell her that I'm talking to them. I missed so much of my nephews and neices now they are adults some are getting married and I'm not invited to the wedding because of her--
ok just a start--as time goes on more to come
I will be venting if thats ok please!
Thanks for starting this group--I hope we will get more members to help overcome the powers of our ill mothers!
One thing I have found out that has helped me through this, I have forgiven her (within my heart). She doesn't know it yet but the pain I carried for so long was killing me. Now my only issue is she is up there in her age--what do I do?
They're the most supportive family I have, yet still my knowledge in that is greatly undermined as my mother will tell me and let other's tell me that she's having them over for dinner, visiting with them, getting on famously with their daughter etc.
I never really feel secure or safe. I've cried at their house twice in my life, because things were just too much, both times I was an adult. I think it shook them to see me like that, they really started to pay attention and I think they might even notice the covert slights.
They tell me they love me and I'm welcome any time, but I only feel like a burden to them, indeed to all of my extended family should I want more than to go for a short visit with them I feel most hinder some.