Urinary Incontinence Support Group

Urinary incontinence is the involuntary excretion of urine from one's body. It is often temporary, and it almost always results from an underlying medical condition. Stress, functional, and urge incontinence are the most common forms. Share with other support group members and learn from their stories and experiences.

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Those Low Times

Ritchie
Ritchie

Ive been incontinent since I was a child and needed various degrees of protection to where I am now, which is always a diaper when I go to sleep, and generally an insert pad into regular undies to take care of stress incontinence during the day, although i need to increase to pull-ups or diapers depending on my general health at that time or what’s planned for the day ahead. 


I don’t know what’s changed but recently my day control has deteriorated quite badly to the point yesterday I leaked from the pull-ups I was wearing when out Christmas shopping and had that horribly familiar and embarrassing walk back to the car with a big wet patch on the back of my thigh. I know the cold can make things worse for me, and this often happens to me at the start of a UTI which I am susceptible to but other symptoms normally show themselves by now. I’ve got a doctors appointment already set for early next month which is a regular checkup on the condition of the operation I had a few years ago but that’s still a bit of time away, and my girlfriends in Singapore for work until next Wednesday which doesn’t help.


I hate these recurring problems and at times they really get to me. It’s bad enough having to wear a diaper to bed every night but I hate when I have to wear them during the day as well and just hope this is another one of those ‘lows’ which will pass on sooner rather than later. 

alphagb
alphagb
I have dealing with daytime incontinence for over 15 years, so I know some of what you are going through. When I finally gave in and started using the tape on diapers during the day, it was like a huge weight was lifted off my shoulders. I now now longer stress out about where to find a rest room or when to make a rest stop in the car. I find that having more protection than I might need relieves any anxiety about having leaks. Try it for a while and see if having no more leaks doesn't relieve a lot of stress. Let us know how you're doing.
Ritchie
Ritchie
I have had to wear a diaper to bed for years now and as much as I hate it I have learnt to have a lot of confidence in them keeping me and the bed dry, even more important if I’m away from home, so I understand what your saying. Although I’m wearing them during the day as well at the moment I prefer to minimize it if I can because I worry I could get more reliant on them.
As an update to this post it has turned out to be another UTI.
Diaperednights
Diaperednights
I wear plastic molicare maxi tape up diapers under
My pjs. I am
Glad i live alone. Six years ago I worn terry shaped diapers with cloth booster & plitchers. You are correct . Better to wet
Diapers than the bed. your girlfriend is cool. .Its hard
to explain to a new person that does need pads that wearing plastic backed diapers .means I never bed wet.
janisunderby
janisunderby
I feel your pain! I'm sixteen years old and have suffered from incontinence and painful UTIs my whole life. I have gone through patches that are worse than others but recently my conditions have become unlivable. I would wet the bed every night and it was super embarrassing. After a lifetime of trying out different doctors, I recently found one that actually made a difference. I was put on a medication that slowed my production of urine at night, and the bedwetting stopped. However, I still suffered from minor incontinence. Today I went back to the hospital and they performed an xray on me to see if I was constipated. They found out I was in fact constipated, and believe that may be the root cause of my incontinence. To remedy this constipation issue, I have to take magnesium citrate tomorrow and I'm super afraid of how it will effect me. Part of me hopes that constipation is the root of my problems because I want to live a life free of invasive procedures, long hospital visits, adult diapers, UTIs, and all the other joys of incontinence. However, after battling this condition for 16 years, I am beginning to lose all hope of being cured. I wish you the best of luck, hope this helps!
Ritchie
Ritchie
Hi Janisunderby, thanks for being understanding and taking the time to write on here, and I’m sorry you’ve had to deal with this all your life. I’ve had it since I was 8 so I know how hard it is and some of what your going through.
I also get painful UTIs, have had many painful operations and been needing pads and diapers all the time and I’d do anything to be able to go a day and night without needing them but I’ve all but given up on that now.
I understand you don’t want to get your hopes up but you have a chance that maybe the doctors have found something that may help and I’ll be keeping my fingers crossed for you. I don’t know about magnesium citrate so can’t really help there, but I do remember reading on here somewhere that another poster whose children were struggling with bedwetting etc and it was found the cause of their problems was constipation, and once cleared they no longer wet the bed.
Big Good Luck for tomorrow, I really hope everything goes well for you, and please let us know how you get on.
Ritchie