Hello!  Im Heather, and I'm fairly new to this incontinence situation.  Let me give you a little back story on myself.  I have 2 beautiful children, but unfortunately since my pregnancy 3 years ago with my son, I have had problems off and on.  It got so bad for a while, that I was in an overnight pad and pant system all day long, and changing multiple times in a 5 hour work day.  I went to the doctor's and had all of the tests run, and everything came back normal.  I became severely depressed, and my marriage began to suffer because I never wanted to go anywhere, or be intimate with my husband for fear that I would pee all over the place, and all over him.  We went to counseling, and worked through it.  Once we began becoming intimate again, the problem seemed to stop.  Fast forward to 6 weeks ago...I had the worst UTI that I have ever experienced, and now the problem is back in full force.  I am so embarrassed by what is going on, and now it seems to be affecting my job because I am either always in the bathroom, running home to change, or I feel like everyone around me knows that I am wearing huge protection in my pants.  Im super embarrassed, and feel like I always smell bad (even though my husband tells me that he cannot smell anything).  My older daughter (7) wants me to take her fun places and I always come up with an excuse to go outside of my home (unless it is to work).  I am able to make it to the toilet, and I know when I have to go...the problem is that when my body says "go", that's it....there is no more warning, and then I void...completely.  I've tried losing weight as I am about 50lbs overweight, and I can't seem to let it go.  Im now wondering why I am so damaged, and why nothing comes up on tests.  What do I do and where do I go from here?