i know the feeling! I have no control at all medicine didnt work for me so i wet all the time I have no feeling of my bladder at all so i don't even know i have to go i just wet my diaper. I have only been incontinent for six months now I don't know if there really is such a thing as gettting used to wetting yourself,

hi ciao fallon try to be happy it's not your fault so take it easy.... like me i know is not up to me.. so just be ready to change your wet diaper,,, and be confortambe as before
andrea

I hope there is a cure - but until then please don't beat yourself up about something you can't control. One way I find to cope is to celebrate what i can control - i.e. there is nothing wrong with being proud of managing your incontinence in a way that causes few difficulties to yourself or others. If you are confident about the protection you are using it helps a lot. Stupid question but do we feel guilty if we have a cold and sneeze a lot - or break a leg and need crutches - or whatever - why should involuntary passing of urine be so different?

If being toilet trained is a milestone of childhood that doesn't mean that you are a failure because in adulthood something beyond your control intervenes.

If you don't mind my asking, what has caused you to no longer have access to your medicine? It might be worth asking your pharmacist if there are any programs or assistance that can get you back on your prescription so things are better for you.

Please don't put yourself in the 'guilty' seat. Each and every one of us has something we're dealing with, whether it's this or something else - and we didn't cause it. Life brings changes to all of us - accepting these changes, and finding workable, functional solutions so these issues just become a part of everyday life lets us continue to enjoy life.

You've done nothing wrong - there's nothing to feel guilty for.

Very best wishes - take care!

Thank you for the support. To answer a question, I had gotten kicked off Medicaid a few months ago and had to go through the re-application process. I am on Vesicare again now, but it's taking a while to build up in my system. Frustrating. I'm on pain pills to treat some other medical conditions, and sometimes I don't wake up & end up wet in bed. I fear I'm losing control even more & needing my diapers even more

I'm 37 and have been dealing with off and on incontinence for 19 years. I can say that eventually you do get used to wetting yourself. In the longer spells I've had (up to a year with little to no control) I've eventually reached the point where I still noticed it was happening but it didn't mean anything more than noticing any other common fact such as it's bright or that the wall paper is blue. Part of it I think is in accepting that it's not your fault and that you aren't doing anything wrong and another part is having the right protection so that you can fully trust it not to leak.

I have accepted my incontinence and agree wetting yourself does take some getting used to. After a year of nightly wetting and about 6 0 8 months of gradually increasing daytime wetting I got to the stage where yes I know I am doing it during the day but don't worry about it. Obviously at night I am not aware of it but I have to say that waking up wet is now so common place I just wake and deal with it as my normal routine. I certainly refuse to let my incontinence restrict my life in anyway.

I know it's hard not to feel defeated or embarrassed just the other day I had gotten in from work and I was barely holding on from being in traffic so long on my way home. My daughter was using the rest room ( we only have one :( and while waiting I lost it and wet myself right in front of her. I get embarrassed when i wet or have to relieve myself outside in front of them because I want them to look up to me as a strong role model. They do understand and sympathize with me but it's hard to shake that defeated feeling. Just remember you can always come here for support and try to stay strong I am on yahoo messenger often. My username is gtg6543 if you ever need to vent. Stay strong hun

Think it all been said but you just have to try to feel positive and not feel guilty, I know its not easy

I feel like it took me a long time to get used to wetting myself even though the diaper was protecting me. I would start to freak out, shoot my hands down into my crotch to check for wetness on my pants/jeans and feel sort of panicked. I knew I was just making it more obvious that something was happening but I kind of couldn't stop myself from having a reaction. Over time I've gotten better at just remaining calm and letting it happen. It's not like I can control anything about it anyway so if I leak, freaking out isn't going to change that. Calmness should come from preparation... wearing enough protection to prevent leaks, in particular. I can't say that I've ever really experienced guilt about wetting. Shame is another story but that only happens now if I'm being careless and allow a leak to occur onto my clothing that I could have probably prevented.

CJ

A lot has been said already and we have most often had accidents and felt guilty in some way, but really its embarrassment, Not guilt.
Especially when out in public not all protection is perfect or garunteed to keep you dry unfortunately, I do feel more confedent when out and about with it on.
Nobody should feel guilty if an accident happens you cannot help it.
Society has a lot to answer for in our perception of each other,just keep your head high and proud.
Accidents will happen your the only one !.( Elvis Costello)

Hi just seen a typo which we could edit posts, anyway
Accidents will happen will happen they only hit and run you used to be a victim but your not the only one !
Is from an Elvis Costello song from the late 70s. song was apt
and positive.
Off tomorrow for urodynamics test