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50, unemployeed, no friends, lost

Bee2018
Bee2018

Hi, My name is Bee and I turned 50 last yr and been unemployeed software enginneer since march 2017(13 months) and losing my mind.  I've had about 20 onsite in past year with 5 in the last couple months. they all respond with we are going with another candidate and no feed back. I'm guessing what to improve on.  I'm trying to keep learning and staying positive but i'm starting to worry.  At some point i might have to move in with my folks.


I feel so useless and unwanted. 


I try to keep moving forward otherwise i'll be left behind.

TC40
TC40
I TOTALLY understand. I have been where you are twice in my life and it is AWFUL. I am working but making barely enough to live. I have been looking for a different job that pays more and o am having the SAME problem. It is very depressing. I made more on unemployment!!!!!
bonusjack
bonusjack
Fifty seems like the kiss of death for software engineers. I became pretty much unemployable at that age a decade ago. It seemed like the big problem was and could still be the availability of H-1B guest workers, so unless you got a position in management, you got overpriced and let go.

I got some IT certifications and did some free-lance commercial work, until the 2009 contraction wiped that out as well. I spent the next 8 years working as a phone service rep for telecomm and cable TV bastards, and decided to retire at age 63, rather than put up with any more crap from mean, exploitative bosses and ungrateful, dissatisfied customers.
Bee2018
Bee2018
TC40 and bonusjack, thanks for the replies

trying to stay positive. I continue to get phone calls from some of the companies i apply and now starting to work with a recruiter. hopefully I'll learn why my interviews are not working.
Bee.
Jay.Bird
Jay.Bird
I hope your situation has improved. I'm in my fifties, myself, and find it difficult to find a job - currently, I'm looking.

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