Oh, I deal with this all the time. My husband and I did IVF with donor eggs and I was pregnant with twins. Every time I went someplace and told someone I was having twins they'd ask if twins ran in the family. I usually said, I guess they do now. Some people will be very bold and ask if you did IVF...I usually said yes, but I didn't really care who knew.

We just had identical boys and people would ask all the time about twins. IIt matter who it was I would just say no or I would tell them were IVF babies. Its funny people would ask if i was having a boy and a girl when I would say identical. Oh NO they are identical. My pregnancy got so clinical it was not a secret to anyone!

Ugh - be prepared to get this question the rest of your life. It doesn't stop when they are born, unfortunately.

We too did IVF. While I don't think you should have to share your story with perfect strangers, we found it was just easier to answer honestly when asked directly about fertility treatments. Most of the time if people are asking that directly, they went through it themselves or know someone who did/is. I have yet to be judged by a stranger openly after being honest and sometimes I have even been able to give a referral to my RE.

Of course, you have no responsibility to these strangers and shouldn't feel pressured to answer if you are uncomfortable with it. If they ask about fertility treatments just tell them that it's not important how they got here and you are just happy to have them. Hopefully that will be enough to give them the hint to back off. If they don't, I wouldn't feel bad about being blunt that it's none of their business. Another approach is to turn the question back to them - say "oh, do you know someone that is going through infertility treatments?" If they say "yes", you can say "well, multiples is definitely a possible result - I wish them luck" or something like that.

Over time you will figure out a good strategy because it will happen even more after they are born. Two babies is like a magnet to all sorts of people. Most of the strangers that stop us now either just want to admire them or tell us how they are a twin or have twins or something along those lines. It makes grocery shopping take forever though - so now if someone stops to comment on them I just pretend I don't hear and keep walking.

Like Emmablue, I say, they do now! I also get asked, "Were you surprised u were having twins?" I say, I was just surprised to be pregnant! I find that the people who come right out & ask about ivf usually have a loved one who went through it too & thats why they're asking. i was also very private about our fert. struggles, but now that they're here i dont care so much who knows what. my babies r a gift from god ivf or not! good luck to u!

I always depends who is asking. I'm a very open person to those who are asking because of their own or someone dear to them (usually family) is facing challenges.

I'm currently pregnant with twins with Donor Eggs; and, we did have a daughter with my eggs from our second cycle.

6 out of 10 couples face fertility issues so the fertility discussion is a common one in society now. But, it is your own business in if and how you want to talk about it.

My sister has twins girls (big surprise to the family), so I just usually say we already have twins in the family.

My Mom had the first set of twins in my family...granted this was 36 years ago...but she got that same question ALL THE TIME!! And her twins were "natural"...so she always just responded like the others here did..."They do now!! :)" She didnt even know she was having twins until very very late in her pregnancy and SHE told the dr bc she had already had my oldest brother and knew that she was carrying way more then one! lol Do waht you feel comfortable with. I also agree that if people are being very forward and asking specific questions they may just know alot about it either from personal experience or family/friend who had gone through it.

Thanks for all of your replies! I like the response that twins "run in the family now!". Personally, I would be more open about it but my husband is a very private person and he doesn't want people to know. One reason is because our families are both Catholic and the church is against the procedure. We just don't want people lecturing us or judging us or our babies.

MomHopes, I'm Catholic, too. I wish the Church would refine its position so that's it clear that it's the stem cell research and disposal of viable embryos that it opposes.

Any child is a blessing...no matter how how they are conceived. IMHO.

I say that same thing emmablue says. I usually say "I guess they do now with me." I am usually very honest if I know the person that I am talking is having infertility issues. It is a hard topic to talk about and I suppose that no matter what we are protected of our loved ones. In the end I don't mind helping someone that is going through the same journey we went through.

I am selective about what I say and who I say it too. I have used the phrase "well they do now" often with strangers but if someone is closer to me I may tell them more. I ususally stop where every I feel comfortable and then let them fill in the rest for themselves. we all have our stories and sometimes I give the shortest version of mine. I might say it took us a long time to get pregnant but after I had surgery in April and we were pregnant by June.... Or I say I was treated for endomentrisosis and got pregnant a few months later. I don't give details like we tried these 5 drugs then did this surgery then did this many IUI ect ect ect... Just find a comfortable answer and pratice it because as I understand it, you will be saying it a lot for the rest of your life :)

My twin boys are 2 and I still get asked this question. I am also Catholic and I have decided that I don't care what others think regarding my fertility treatment decisions. People are going to judge no matter what. I feel that God just chose a different path for us to conceive our children. Tell people whatever you feel comfortable telling them. Good luck to you.

I am 6 months pregnant and wait tables. I get this question all the time.."Do twins run in the family?" Well in my case they do and being over 40 the chance of twins is greater BUT we did an FET after 3 failed fresh attempts of IVF. I am not ashamed, embarrassed nor afraid to tell people anything. I just can't believe people just come right out and ask..."Did you use fertility drugs?" I just think people are so mislead and misinformed on infertility. I want to help others understand all the scenarios that infertility treatments help women conceive. I don't broadcast what we went through but if someone asks I too have a little short answer I give. I am Catholic too and I believe God and St Gerard were behind me and still walk with me and these girls 100%. Bet of luck!

I get it all the time, but I have no problem saying it was IVF. My grandfather is a twin, but I feel like I'm lying if I said it just happened. Not that it's anybody's business. Depending on my mood, I say yes and leave it at that. You do what you think is best. Congratualtions. Having twins is the best feeling ever!!!