Trying To Conceive Support Group

Whether you are just beginning your journey to create your family, or you have been trying for a few months, the TTC community will provide you with a group of like minded people who can help. It takes up to a year for the average fertile couple to achieve a successful pregnancy, and here at DailyStrength you will find information and support while you are waiting for...

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Naehicks 03/30/2014

Today is my birthday and what do I get. AF. Yup that's right she appeared today and I feel defeated yet again. Im just over this. Its so hard to live in Alaska and not have options like most of you do. We used to have a guy that worked 200+ miles from us that did ivfs but we had 2 failed cycles with him and he no longer does the procedure. I would have to fly out of state to get i vf and I just can't afford it. The 'RE that is here is leaving Alaska in may and she wants to help but my husband is being a real pain when it comes to taking another seamen analysis. He feels that the urologist saw swimmers and that's all that matters. Lately I've found myself in bad place..wanting to cry all the time and find myself pissed with my body. I just want to stop and walk away but I don't know how. I just wish I could be doing more. Isn't it sad I'd rather be shooting up hormones than trying naturally because then in my head I feel like im doing something. Ladies...im drowning here. What can I do where can I turn...ugh happy birthday to me. :0(

deleted_user 03/31/2014

Naehicks,

I'm so sorry that this happened to fall on your birthday of all days! I always experience a "down" time after I get AF. I understand your feelings that you want to be actively doing something to help the process. If nothing else doing something would give you a break mentally. Have you been diagnosed with anything? Could you see just a regular OBGYN instead of a specialist? That's what I do.

I know this is after the fact, but I hope you have a better day today!
BRS

deleted_user 03/31/2014

I'm so sorry you are feeling like this...it truly sucks when AF turns up, and on your birthday? Double rubbish.

It really is an emotional rollercoaster this TTC lark...feelings of hope, excitement and then anxiety and sadness...urgh. I can totally relate.

I completely understand your need to try and help things along, I feel the same way. We are currently on our 9th month of trying and I am due on in 6days...I am already thinking about what I am going to do differently next month (starting to run out of ideas though!) and planning what to do and when...aaagh!

Could your husband be persuaded to give a sample? If he knows how much it would mean to you? Or would it be worth giving yourself a break even for just a month? I know that goes against you wanting to do something to help you get pregnant but it might give you some much needed time to focus on yourself and some time to relax?

Have you tried acupuncture? I know this can help with TTC and might be worth a try if you haven't already?

I'm really sorry I can't be of much help but I just wanted to let you know you are not alone and we get it.

Hope you feel better soon x

MRSstrong 03/31/2014

I'm so sorry. I can understand your need to want to give up naturally. I am right there with you. It feels pointless trying, and that little tiny bit of hope that last day before AF really sucks.

I really hope the hubby comes around soon. Maybe he just needs some time to get back into it all.

I do hope you have a good birthday. Do something nice for yourself. Go for a walk, buy some flowers, get a massage.... anything! I'm thinking of you, and us ladies on DS are always here if you need to vent.

Nedico 04/01/2014

I totally get this, I found ttc so much harder than IVF, do they know what is wrong? I found out my tubes were blocked and it was such a relief, sounds crazy but at least I knew why, then we went on to have one of them clipped to improve our chances of conception but while I was under anaesthetic they decided to clip both since my hydrosaplinx were so bad it would make us better placed for IVF, obviously I was gutted but after I got over the grief, it was a massive relief, I wasn't wondering evry month, because I knew I couldn't get pregnant naturally now. Of course it makes IVF harder since we know its our only hope now, and even though we just got our 1st IVF we know if this doesn't work out, its back to IVF, no happy surprises.....although people still say...."itll happen when you least expect it" even when you've told them a 1000 times hahah

Hope you feel better soon and this journey gets easier for you! xxx

Naehicks 04/01/2014

Thank you ladies...i slept the rest of the day and felt better. I decided that your right maybe he needs a break...hes just weird because if I tell him lets take a break from it he'll be convinced I want to be . With the whole thing he will take it personally. ..hes odd that way. Ill give him a break without giving him a break. For my own sanity.

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