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I have trich and I have two girls. The youngest is in 5th grade and I feel like such a failure. I feel terrible because my youngest has ADHD problems and gets picked on in school. Of course when she came home
and was upset because kids were teasing her I felt so upset for her. She wanted to go to online home public school like her older sister and I just felt so guilty because I feel like I am the cause of her getting teased because of her ADHD quirks.
Needless to say, last night was a tough night for me. I was so anxious and couldn't handle being in my own skin. I wished I could come out of my body and go into another where the feelings of guilt, anger, sadness, trouble breathing was gone. If I had eyelashes to pull, I would have pulled so much more.
I feel so sad for my daughter, how can I make it better for her.
and was upset because kids were teasing her I felt so upset for her. She wanted to go to online home public school like her older sister and I just felt so guilty because I feel like I am the cause of her getting teased because of her ADHD quirks.
Needless to say, last night was a tough night for me. I was so anxious and couldn't handle being in my own skin. I wished I could come out of my body and go into another where the feelings of guilt, anger, sadness, trouble breathing was gone. If I had eyelashes to pull, I would have pulled so much more.
I feel so sad for my daughter, how can I make it better for her.
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I don't really know how to label this but I having a rough week and I can't say it's one thing.... I have a lot on my plate which is nothing new and I try to cope in many positive ways and do but I still have my moments.My kids more so my daughters talk to me about everything which I know it's cause of comfort and we are close.... however I really struggle with the venting about their dad which...
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I did the dumbest thing today. I charged my earbuds, unplugged the block and put the block in my little bag instead of the earbuds. I wasn't happy about that when I got to the gym. What a dummy!
I have ADD myself and two children (now happy adults) with ADD.
They don't understand trich, but that's OK, they don't have to. I used to joke with them, "No, no no, Mom's not crazy just DELIGHTFULLY ECCENTRIC!" They would roll their eyes, but it broke the tension and we could all laugh.
What your kids will remember you for is the love you lavish on them!
I'll bet she's not the only kid in school with ADHD, maybe you can talk to one of those parents for advice or venting!
Ipsgirl is right, your kids need your love to get them through these problems. When I was that age and almost completely bald, of course the kids said things. I wish my parents had helped me think of good come backs so I didn't just sit there about to cry. Self confidence can help lessen the teasing -- they do it to get a rise out her. Give her the tools she needs to deal with these jerks (in this case, a snappy come back or joke) and maybe include her sister in the planning to get a kid's point of view.
You are a good mom because you care so much! ADHD is so hard to deal with, don't forget to carve some time out of your day just for YOU. Get a massage, do some yoga, call an old friend.
This is so important, as we want to fix the problem, and, yet, as they become adults, they still have the same issue to work with, so we can help them by letting them see alternative options to the problem.
Teased, and not bullied, as mentioned means that she is unique, and this is not adding ADD to the mixture. She can use the attention to help her build ability, skill, and knowledge to put the things noticed into her character to fit the way she wants them to fit.
If she were being bullied (and sometimes teasing can turn into bullying), then she has to choose what she wants to say and do to stand up to the bullying.
You are a wonderful mom, and yes, you have to let your feelings out, work through the pain as you are, and then be positive, proactive, and support your daughter through this experience.
When I find myself thinking sad, I put up the the glad parts that come because my child marches to a different drumbeat, and it helps.
You are not alone, and yes, you will have to remind yourself that you are not the disease, it is only a part.
Hang in there!
Smiles, and hugs!