Don't ever feel like a failure. Stay positive and know that you have a huge support group. You have a beautiful daughter who is going to be arriving shortly and she will definitely keep you busy (maybe busy enough not to think about pulling). You are not alone.

Dear Katielynn, congratulations in advance on your little darling daughter. I had 2, and I found that I was so busy day-to-day that I did not pull. The only time I pull is when I'm idle, watching tv, on the phone, etc. It's kind of a mindless habit. There are no guarantees that you will quit, or even back off a little bit, but we are hoping that this is the case for you! I gave you a hug and hope you keep up your spirits in these happy times ahead!

Don't shame yourself for it!
Babies and kids are going to love you NO MATTER WHAT! That is the beauty of children- they don't see that you're struggling and that your hair is thinning- they see their mommy and will love you UNCONDITIONALLY. You are not a failure. Be proud of your mom to be status and keep yourself busy. Good luck and congrats on becoming a mom!

Congratulations in advance too...I remember having the same feelings when I was expecting my son...

I do not feel it is a mindless habit -I have suffered from this for 36 of my 42 years with no relief...but I go on every day...we are all here for you and remember that the trich is just a very small part of who we are as a person -we have so many other traits and wonderful things about us and to offer to others (especially your soon to be little one)...

Dear healingslowly, I can empathize with you about having trich for so long. I am 59 and I have had it since I was 9! Fifty years of pulling...you would think my head would be a total bowling ball by now, but no. I've had a successful career, family life, etc. and practically no one except a few confidantes and family have known about it. I don't call it a mindless habit lightly; in my case, I just don't consciously focus on anything while I'm doing it. Perhaps it's different for you and for others.

YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE!! Please do this: go to a mirror, or just say to yourself, "I'm smart and beautiful" for about 5 times...then come up with a reasonable plan..You have a goal; to stop pulling in 3 months..write it down..then come up with steps to obtain that goal.For example, where is your preferred pulling spot (location in your house)- change it up- use Harm Reduction, "I'm only going to pull (blank) hairs today" and keep making that # smaller as your baby's arrival nears..and above all, trich is an illness..DON'T EVER BE MAD AT YOURSELF FOR BEING ILL! How would you treat a friend who expressed this issue to you? Imagine that. THAT'S how you need to treat yourself..Be forgiving and don't give up if you have a "relapse"...Also, good for you for reaching out for help!! That's the first step! I agree with many of the replies-you are going to be busy and exhausted after your baby comes....you will not have time to pull out your hair..and you're in good company here. :)

Aww, don't lose hope! You are not a failure!
I just pulled out all of my lashes, and it's a pain (to where I am still crying over it happening yesterday) to deal with. But I'm trying to learn to forgive myself so that I can move on to control myself further and look forward to regrowth. You can do it! Don't give up on yourself.