Transgender Support Group
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Bit of back history.
I live in a fairly small city. 50 000 people or so. There are really no gangs, crime is low, but like any small city it does have it's dirty secrets. Being homosexual is tolerated, in most groups accepted, but there are those people who make comments and at times take violent actions. I am not one of them.
I went to a highschool of 300. My grad class was only 100 kids. One of them, a quiet boy whom I had known since we were 3 was in that class.
In the last 6 months we have been talking and getting to know each other better.
He recentley disclosed to me that he has been wearing girls clothes behind closed doors. No big deal for me. But in our city, it would destroy him. He's still new at it, we are 23, and he's embarassed by it. It took him awhile to admit it too me.
He can't buy them, so he had a female friend buy him a few items and that's all he has, though he want's more. He told me that he is embarassed to go out and buy them, and he doesn't have alot of spare cash.
I want to encourage him, to let him know it's okay to be different...but I don't want to embarass him...or make him regret telling me.
Any suggestions?
I live in a fairly small city. 50 000 people or so. There are really no gangs, crime is low, but like any small city it does have it's dirty secrets. Being homosexual is tolerated, in most groups accepted, but there are those people who make comments and at times take violent actions. I am not one of them.
I went to a highschool of 300. My grad class was only 100 kids. One of them, a quiet boy whom I had known since we were 3 was in that class.
In the last 6 months we have been talking and getting to know each other better.
He recentley disclosed to me that he has been wearing girls clothes behind closed doors. No big deal for me. But in our city, it would destroy him. He's still new at it, we are 23, and he's embarassed by it. It took him awhile to admit it too me.
He can't buy them, so he had a female friend buy him a few items and that's all he has, though he want's more. He told me that he is embarassed to go out and buy them, and he doesn't have alot of spare cash.
I want to encourage him, to let him know it's okay to be different...but I don't want to embarass him...or make him regret telling me.
Any suggestions?
We talked about online shopping. He doesn't have a credit card, and his income to debt ratio isn't good enough to land one. He get's all his current online stuff through his aunt, he just pays her the cash to use her card, but he's not comfortable doing this as you could imagine. We decided he should look into a prepaid visa or something, I do believe you can use those online can't you? He was also worried about his room mates (he has 3) opening the box. Why they would open his mail, I don't know...but I may never understand the male mind and that's just one of the mysteries! He said he can't lie about why they are there, he doesn't like lying. But if it comes to letting out his secret, or lying, I think he may lie. It took him 7 years to tell me....and I'm sure it will take much longer to show people.
We did talk about him eventually showing people. He says he will never do it. And he's luckless in love already so this just demolished any chance he had of finding someone. I don't think he could be happy, ever really happy, if he hides such a big part of himself. And I know all the stigma, but clothes don't make a person. And they are just clothes.
He's also worried because he is up for reassesment for the army. He wanted to join fresh out of high school but he had some knee issues. He is up to be checked again if he is still interested in the army. He is freaking out. He still want's to go, but that would mean leaving all the womans clothes behind for years. And if he could sneak some of it he would have to hide it ridiculously well.
He's also worried that people will think he is gay. He repeatedly told me he still likes girls. I dated a guy in college, one date, his personality stunk in the end, who wore girls lacy thongs. He was upfront about it, he said they made him feel sexy. I still went on the date, and if there had been chemistry we would of gone again. He was straight. I tried to tell my friend that you can be straight and cross dress, but now that he has finally admitted to himself out loud, and to a few select others, he is questioning his own sexuality I think.
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