5 years in and my family still calls me by my birth name. It isn't because they are deliberately trying to though, it is because they had 30 some years of calling me a specific name and its hard as hell to change that. That's a lot of memory to try to change the name in and it takes a very long time. Generally all I do is I will correct them one or two times then drop it for that day/conversation. That said my mom will say daughter when she can to others, but she just has a hard time remembering the new name. It will take time and a huge amount of it, but you need to remind them. Also reinforcing my parents issue is the fact that I really don't dress that much differently, I didn't go from a jeans and tshirt wearing boy to a dress and heels girl, I went to a jeans and tshirt wearing girl. So when they look at me, mostly they see the same person they always did and the name that comes to mind is the one that I had for 32 years, not the one I have had for the last 5.

All you can do is try to remind them, and talk to them. They will do their best, but they are going to make mistakes and often. Sad as it is.

I hope that my video link might provide some helpful tips for you: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I9fNzOS4g8c

i think the easiest way to explain to her is that our bodies are like cocoons that we just aren't comfortable with so we are trying our best to tailor our cocoons enough for us to have a happy existence in the one life we do have. If it helps also you can email or write your family a letter.

Two of my sister-in-laws are like that - outright refusing to call me by my correct LEGAL NAME, and refusing to use the correct pronouns, even though I look completely male now, and have for a few years. They still insist on calling me by the original given name, and by the female pronouns, EVERY TIME we are out in public anywhere.

I have taken the tact of looking at the pair of them like they are insane, every time they do that in front of people. Most people also look at them like they are nut cases, especially since I have been sporting a full beard for some time, and my gender marker on my DL is male, with my current legal (male) name. The rest of the family work hard to use the correct pronouns, and correct name - even to frowning at the two purposely wrong sister-in-laws and openly correcting them, in public - as loudly as they insisted on proclaiming the wrong name/pronouns.

My relatives have all heard and seen the horror stories of other Transgender people getting beaten up and killed, just for being themselves, so they are aware how dangerous it is for me - and how these two sister-in-laws are putting my life at risk, every time they pull this junk. Even my sister, who has been the slowest to come around, scolded them in public, saying, "Now, you two cut that out. You KNOW he's as much a guy as you're women!" (Which made my day, as the two of them gaped stupidly at her and everyone laughed at them.)

It takes time, for them to come to terms with it, and some of them may never do so - accept that, and keep working towards becoming yourself. As they see you becoming more and more comfortable as who you are, most will adapt and adjust - or fall by the wayside. Don't let it upset you - people enter and leave our lives all the time, for various reasons. We may not want to see them leave, but in the end, that is their choice. I like to think of it as them leaving to make room for someone else to enter my life.