Transgender Support Group
This community is here to support and help the large population of transgender people. If you or anyone you know identify as transgender, this is the place to share your feelings and experiences and speak with others who are going through similar things in their lives.
Hello all,
I am a 36 yr old married FTM. I am a few months shy of taking T for two years and the transition has had my mind in so many different places. My wife and I have been going through these changes alone. No one in either of our family know exactly what is going on but her family can see the physical change. I haven't had any physical contact with my family for years so they do not know how I have changed. I don't talk on the phone with them because my voice changed and I got tired of them asking me if I had a cold, so I communicate through text. I use to work around majority of men and once the changes really started they changed towards me so I decided to leave my job. My wife introduced me to this web site, she uses it as well but needed support from a different perspective because our relationship has changed. I am looking for support through my transition and some advice on handling the changes and want to be a part of a community that understands me. Hope to hear from ya'll soon.
I am a 36 yr old married FTM. I am a few months shy of taking T for two years and the transition has had my mind in so many different places. My wife and I have been going through these changes alone. No one in either of our family know exactly what is going on but her family can see the physical change. I haven't had any physical contact with my family for years so they do not know how I have changed. I don't talk on the phone with them because my voice changed and I got tired of them asking me if I had a cold, so I communicate through text. I use to work around majority of men and once the changes really started they changed towards me so I decided to leave my job. My wife introduced me to this web site, she uses it as well but needed support from a different perspective because our relationship has changed. I am looking for support through my transition and some advice on handling the changes and want to be a part of a community that understands me. Hope to hear from ya'll soon.
Welcome to the group. I'm the resident FTM elder, so to speak, since I transitioned in 1987 when transgender was not even a word.
At any rate, at some point you are going to have to tell your family about you, I did not tell my family until I was well into the transition, so that it could not be said I was going through a phase, plus the added factor that there was no word for what I was doing did not help much.
Best news? I lost the entire loathsome father side of the family, no sooner, that I had uttered the news that I was living as the man, I had always been. The down side? My sister and her mom did not talk to me for 15 years, not because they were shunning me but because they did not know how to talk to me afraid they would sound intrusive, I still called them on holidays and birthdays. Eventually, we talked it out and we are now closer than ever.
All and I all I wish you the best and a caveat that the world of men is not all it is cracked up to be. That thinking you are a man and being one 24/7 is not the same thing. That you can now choose to be the man you want to be not what others tell you it is.
Lastly, I hope that the lessons of having lived as a female though not all pleasant, you do not forget them or blocked them out, they happened for a reason, denying them or hating them will not bring you closer to freedom.
As you are changing, everyone around you will, as well. So be patient and kind to yourself and others around you. Lastly, this happened for you, not against you. It happened because you knew, you could handle it before you came to Earth, so to speak.
Love yourself, exactly as you are right now and everything else will fall into place. Happy New Year to you both.
Enough advice for 1 day,
Wolf