The Hen House Community Group
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Hi Buddies
I am an emotional wreck this morning. Friday morning meeting went great. I saved $60K/year on metals when no one thought I could and it is continual year after year. A real feather in my cap for my negotiating skills. Then the afternoon meeting where they announced the interim boss for 3 months. The person is an insecure male who has always tried to undermine me. At first I paid it no mind until the meeting progressed and he declared he wanted to have a weekly meeting with me as to why the inventory was so high….!.... That is like a mechanic asking an accountant why the accounting is so. What good would it be to explain my diploma and years of experience and what went on with the company the past 5 years to you? A man who is temporary in power. I argued this in front of the COO who is a purchaser and he let it ride. I even pointed out that this is my yearly Managers Objective and that inventory fluctuates constantly because we buy and make things. When my arguments fell on dumb hears I sat there totally dumfounded because the only reason this guy is doing it is to passive aggressively undermine me in front of my peers and for no other reason. They couldn’t explain to what outcome of this exersize would be.
So, I spent the weekend polishing up my resume, and it is a damn good resume. I went out and asked the lady for help in buying a power suit and whenever I cut myself down for looking fat, I swallowed that down and did my best. I bought a bigger curling iron for the styles of today and I thought about what to say in my interviews. Lord knows, I interviewed enough people to know how to conduct myself. I’ve sent out 3 resume’s already and I’m starting to feel in control.
But deep down, I feel devastated. I witnessed the Boy’s club had developed while I had my head down and I was working. All these guys were backing him up and trying to stop me from speaking. It has happened to me time and time again in my career. The COO mentioned that two higher jobs would be open in 3 months but I can’t see how I could step into them while this has conspired behind my back. Insecure boys who like to play games. I have no defence and to say that I should build defence……well, it’s a moral code with me. I’m a thinking and progesser. I am kind and fair and I can’t do that AND be a weasel. The two don’t mix.
I am afraid, and feel I’m in mourning, and I ask myself ‘why is this happening again?!” and I feel lost as to what to do and where to turn and the best course of action. The future is unknown and it could get better or a whole lot worse.
So this morning, I was ranting and raving, and crying at my loss of my fair boss and mentor leaving, and then, I saw this sticker. LET GO AND LET GOD. So I’m going to try to do that. I’m prepared to stay and fight and I’m prepared to leave.
Thanks for listening. I really feel isolated because I don’t know who I can trust here or where to turn. Today I’m in a big need of hugs.
Angela
I am an emotional wreck this morning. Friday morning meeting went great. I saved $60K/year on metals when no one thought I could and it is continual year after year. A real feather in my cap for my negotiating skills. Then the afternoon meeting where they announced the interim boss for 3 months. The person is an insecure male who has always tried to undermine me. At first I paid it no mind until the meeting progressed and he declared he wanted to have a weekly meeting with me as to why the inventory was so high….!.... That is like a mechanic asking an accountant why the accounting is so. What good would it be to explain my diploma and years of experience and what went on with the company the past 5 years to you? A man who is temporary in power. I argued this in front of the COO who is a purchaser and he let it ride. I even pointed out that this is my yearly Managers Objective and that inventory fluctuates constantly because we buy and make things. When my arguments fell on dumb hears I sat there totally dumfounded because the only reason this guy is doing it is to passive aggressively undermine me in front of my peers and for no other reason. They couldn’t explain to what outcome of this exersize would be.
So, I spent the weekend polishing up my resume, and it is a damn good resume. I went out and asked the lady for help in buying a power suit and whenever I cut myself down for looking fat, I swallowed that down and did my best. I bought a bigger curling iron for the styles of today and I thought about what to say in my interviews. Lord knows, I interviewed enough people to know how to conduct myself. I’ve sent out 3 resume’s already and I’m starting to feel in control.
But deep down, I feel devastated. I witnessed the Boy’s club had developed while I had my head down and I was working. All these guys were backing him up and trying to stop me from speaking. It has happened to me time and time again in my career. The COO mentioned that two higher jobs would be open in 3 months but I can’t see how I could step into them while this has conspired behind my back. Insecure boys who like to play games. I have no defence and to say that I should build defence……well, it’s a moral code with me. I’m a thinking and progesser. I am kind and fair and I can’t do that AND be a weasel. The two don’t mix.
I am afraid, and feel I’m in mourning, and I ask myself ‘why is this happening again?!” and I feel lost as to what to do and where to turn and the best course of action. The future is unknown and it could get better or a whole lot worse.
So this morning, I was ranting and raving, and crying at my loss of my fair boss and mentor leaving, and then, I saw this sticker. LET GO AND LET GOD. So I’m going to try to do that. I’m prepared to stay and fight and I’m prepared to leave.
Thanks for listening. I really feel isolated because I don’t know who I can trust here or where to turn. Today I’m in a big need of hugs.
Angela
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88FIn 1969 we decided to get married without a big wedding. Most of our friends and family liked large over the top for the time kind of weddings and I did not. First, I didn't see why spending so much money for one day when we have the rest of our lives to live. I have never regretted not having a big formal wedding. Another issue is not liking all the attention. Also, we have gone to big...
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It's going to get hotter here with Thursday being the hottest. It's noon and 75f feels more like 80 or more.I've been cleaning up the deck in this morning and cleaning the windows outside. Then I cut up a pallet in half, I've decided to call it quits now because I went a bit light headed. Joanne, some drugs we take have an effect on us in the heat, I know a couple of mine do, maybe yours...
wishing you the best with lots of hugs and hope!
Mourning is healthy. It helps us evaluate and reflect on how to move forward. We grieve over the coulda, shoulda and woulda.........but then we move forward. The good ole' boys system works in many ways and not just against women. It is a group of insecure men that band together in their backyard and think of ways to elevate themselves. They know underneath it all they are not worthy as one individual, therefore, sit in silence while someone worthy looses.
Prayers for your future is in my heart,
Joanne
The men's club is so yesterday but sounds like your group doesn't know that. I would bet anything they know your value and would pee themselves if they thought you were leaving.
Sending you cheers for knowing who you are and what you can do!
I love how you've taken control of your future by preparing yourself now! Until something changes, try imagining these 'good old boys' sadly looking at their teeny weenies when they hold meetings in the little boy's room. You just might find it to be a new form of stress relief...they won't know why you giggle every once in a while.
Hugs and empowered clucks!
Hugs
Hugs,
Sandy
You are a strong woman in mans world, you have no idea how i envy your grit, gumption and confidence. You can hold your own with words and speak confidently at pple face to face. Something i struggle with.
I just know your going to get through this, if only you would trust yourself to cope and deal with all this, thats all it boils down to, trusting that whatever life throws at us, we have the ability to adapt and the resources to cope. Its all there right inside you. : )
I haven't had an interview for 25 years and ive never written a resume (we call them a CV) they wasnt around when i left school, Ive learnt tho and i am hoping ive got it right!
I wish i could come over to yours and you could "practice interview" me. I am so frightened i'm going to do something stupid like have a panic attack! But then i remind myself that "nothing great is ever going to happen to you, if your not willing to look stupid" lol
Tonna
Big hugs!!
Well, I got my first call from a recuiter this afternoon and I have a real serious prospect, and a few minutes ago I just sent them an introduction letter. Wow, its really starting to happen. And, this place is so close that I can ride my bike to work !!?!! I haven't done that since I was a kid. No more hour in traffic both ways if this works out.
I'm still keeping to my "let go and let God" motto whenever I get the nerves and knowing I have you guys there as a support system is worth ..... well, its invaluable to me.
Thanks for caring, making me smile, and bringing me up.
Angela