Such a simple concept that is challenging to us all! Perspective is so personal, and to allow yourself to step outside your own conception and see others is a practice makes perfect art! I love this kind of post...thought provoking with room for growth. Thanks for sharing with us Bgoodwin.

Actually it reminds me if the Serenity Prayer.

God grant me the Serenity to accept those things I cannot change.
Courage to change the things I can.
And Wisdom to know the difference.

Thanks for this topic Bgoodwin-----it was a very good reminder !

" U R Both Very, Very Welcome " !!

My daughter at age 3 mastered the art of Teflon.

Literally you could NOT upset this girl. If she asked for a brownie and I said no, her standard response was "I didn't want one anyway".....and she meant it.

I have worked at becoming her ever since then (with some effect).

And we have a couple patients that I swear are Borderline Personality Disorder. They give a really good impression of it if they aren't. Call me strange, but they're some of my favorite people. (I've been accused of giving the wrong "thickness of Tylenol". Once I even joked about it, so I let the other nurse witness just what I was pulling....and you name it....I was accused again. Sigh. It can get annoying to have to take 10 minutes just to give someone some tylenol, but I remind myself that it's harder to be HER and to be going through the things that she's going through in her mind, than it is to be me....She's probably called 911 fifty times. Even the police have their own personal "favorites" for the reasons that she's given for calling.....

Art of Teflon, LOL again!

those of us with depression,and other emotional problems, there are no simple reactions as this...

Argus, I hear you Brother! When facing such challenges is exactly when we need to learn new life skills. Just keep putting one foot in front of the other, give yourself permission to move on...and MEAN IT! Then start from scratch with intention and goals. As the song says, "When going through Hell, just keep going!".

I live with PTSD, have since I was 12 and long before they had a name for it. Chronic Depression is no way to live, but it is surmountable! I use several techniques, some work better than others, but its okay that it is trial and error....each person has to find the tools that they are skilled with.

While I am a self proclaimed Social Butterfly, I also need alone time, so I balance the two watching for my tell-tell signs that I am getting to busy or too withdrawn. Some days are all about small steps, some about leaps of faith, but each day is full of choices. Embrace them! Life is hard at times, but worth it!

And Friend, there's nothing wrong with Fake it til you Make it either. Those who know me best can tell the difference in a painted on and a genuine smile, but the average Joe doesn't know or care!

You have many friends here, that have dealt with such issues in their lives, we will be glad to push, pull or prod you anytime you need us! Just holler.....we are listening!

Hugs and Peace Argus D.

thanks for your reply..I aganoze over choices..It takes me a long time to make up my mind,because it is always changing,..

Argus, My DH ways I always change my mind......Life is what happens while your making other plans!

ooops that should read DH Says!

problem is,life passes me by,and I still stay in one place..

I figure there's n0t much I can change, however I do know it's up to God. I've acted as if. I know how to be my own best friend, be a mother to myself. to be rid of abuse. What I do is set boundaries. If I'm having a pity party, I change my way of thinking. If I don't listen to my body, I screw up. Being mindful is a habit. I try gratitude when all else fails

depression kills the spirit..But with the help from my friends,it does seem like to keep on keeping on,is the right thing to do.

Mirto and Argus....re-read Choice again and again and again! Copy it and surround yourself with reminders that YOU get to choose every moment! and how you spend it! Think of yourself as a magnet, which end are you? Positve or Negative...you get to choose which energy you attract or repel. Hope that visualization helps, I have used it several times daily! Hugs to you both and feel stronger and better today and everyday.

THERE ARE TOO MANY NEGITIVE PEOPLE IN MY FAMILY,THATS ANOTHER PROBLEM..