My story...Married extremely young. Had a good marriage but with a self absorbed hubby. About 9 yrs ago, my kids were just graduating college & high school. I had been the continuously involved mom. Had empty nest syndrome along with some other issues pertaining to mid life crisis. Had an affair & then a divorce after 25 yrs. of marriage. Husband said he would ruin my life, take EVERYTHING that was important to me away if I didn't stay. I didn't.
My kids were devastated from my betrayal. I was a mess.
Daughter was as vicious as ex. son soon forgave me. Daughter TOTALLY est. me. Was not invited to wedding, that I was paying for, was not included with birth of first GC. Then GC was sick & she slowly started letting me see GC. Very hostile towards me, but started to let me in the door. This was in about a 4 year period.
Ex outright punishes anybody & everybody who has any connection with me. Even my son.
By the way, I am still with the person that I had the affair with & my ex & his ex are now married. Did ya catch that??? My now fiance lived with a woman, he & I had an affair. Our significant others hooked up & got married. Unfortunately they are miserable because they are both evil ppl. So...ex's wife is the queen of vendictive behavior. She, my ex & my semi est. daughter treat me like dirt.
I stay connected because I have become attached to my GCs & tell myself that they can "suck it" as long as I get to see my GCs. But very difficult because of the treatment. Just wishing I could see GCs & never see the others.
Anybody else deal with being included just enough to witness all the ways you are a nothing?