Annie, this guy broke down your door? What a #@&%$ jerk. He's in jail for that right? I would be very cautious with someone that obsessed when it comes to the kids. That must be pure hell on your medical issues, not to mention your heart. I can only pray that this guy gets what he deserves and for your daughter and GK's AND you to stay safe. They say God doesn't put more on us than we can handle. Don't you wish he didn't trust you so much?. Prayers and positive thoughts going out to you and yours. Hugs, Dianna

Did he break an order of protection ( formerly called restraining order ) ? If he did then he should be jailed. Domestic violence is insidious and not easily discussed. Thank you for trusting us with the situation and we will certainly pray.

You must me exhausted emotionally with your daughter's situations and she is fortunate to have you on her side. We are here and understand and support you.

Hugs and Love,
Joanne

Annie so sorry to hear that your family is going thru all of this, what a hardship and heartbreaking. I certainly hope this all gets resolved soon for all of your sakes.

Please be sure to remind us of your upcoming surgery when it's closer to date, personally my memory is terrible and I'd like to be there for you.

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers,
Toni

jerk i know how this feels if i was there just kick hes ass i hate guys like this at least kids are small might not r ember bless your heart for helping her you have so much wrong ,
tell your daughter shes in love with who he was not what he is now be strong stand her ground , that sometime things that hurt lead to new starts greater blessings it hard to see that but its true hope he went to jail for breaking door down hugs get some rest your going to need it borrow someones huge dogs to stay with you hugs and prayers minnie

Sweet Annie, I am so sorry for all you are having to deal with on top of all your other stuff. My heart goes out to your daughter & granddaughter's. Her situation is not only frightening, it's alarming. I'm going to presume she has a restraining order against him. If not she needs to get one ASAP! This will start a paper trail which can be vital when it comes to custody. The fact he has already broken down the door, threatened her etc is alarming! I know in the scheme of things a restraining order is worthless againt someone who is determined. & violent. I don't say this to scare or alarm you, but with that restraining order it will be much easier to have him thrown in jail & hopefully give your daughter complete custody.

Annie, I'm sending up prayers for you, your daughter & granddaughter's that God protect & keep them safe. For you praying for healing, strength, comfort. & peace of mind, body. & spirit. I'm only a message away if you need a shoulder to lean on or just someone to listen & vent to .

Love, Hugs & God Bless
Lisa

Annie,

I'm so sorry your daughter and grandchildren have had to go through. It can't be easy on any of you. She's lucky to have you help her through all of paperwork and just to :be there to support her is huge

I'm so sorry to hear you have to go for surgery yourself again. I pray it's not anything too serious. I know in the past you've had some pretty life threatening issues yourself. Please know that you will be in my thoughts and prayers as you go through your own surgery. Please keep us updated if you can as to how you are doing if you can.

Love and hugs,

Xoxoxoxo

Mary Ellen

Annie, so sorry that you n your family are going through all this. I agree w the others that an order of protection needs to be in place. I hope you can get everything in order (enough) before your surgery. If your daughter does file she can go to victims services for additional help.
You don't need to be under this kind of stress at surgery time either.
Thoughts n prayers w you all.
Hugs

Gentlest prayers for you and yours, and we're here for you:-)

I'd add what should happen to such people as that guy, but at the moment, I can't think of anything nasty enough for someone who'd do that to his kids.

Softest protecting prayers for you and your daughter and the grands,
Leo

Annie, I am so sorry for your situation. You are doing all the right things, but the main thing is to keep that guy away from those girls. I will pray for you daughter, the babies and you. I know how much stress affects PD as any excitement whether good or bad sends my husband up a wall with severe tremors and he has to go to bed. I hope all ends well. Prayers, loves and hugs.

THANK YOU ONE AND ALL! :) Jim (my husband) was up there yesterday, helping her secure a new vehicle which we are financing for her. It's a really great, reliable, impeccably maintained 2008 Honda FIT, just right for her and the girls. So, his father's car will go back to him (the grandfather has been kind to my daughter & the girls). That cuts one link of control.

She is working up her courage to file the Complaint for Custody; in NC (even when you are not married to the "baby daddy", you have do it to get them in school, and prior to Child Support-which makes sense). She will do it Tuesday. He will have 30 days to answer. But he has not indicated he wants custody, and she's going to tell him it's because of school. (Not because we think he or his family might not just "keep" the girls after visitation.)

I have done all her legal paperwork -- fortunately I am still enough in my right mind to have my skills. Also did the draft of the required "Parenting Agreement" and document with hyperlinks for all the child support stuff, which needs to go through DSS as NC is all about the child's rights, not what the parents want. And keeping kids off state programs.

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ORDER -- have one drafted and she has it. The police told her when she filed the report after calling them that night that since he had only been moved out 2 days, and still had a key, she could not file one. However, there is a police record of the incident.

I am also keeping a calendar of things -- like him dropping the kids from his health insurance this week, not giving her time to get them on hers until August 1.

YES, it is affecting my PD, but the prayers of all my friends holds me together. Her sisters are supporting her tremendously as well and are of the "kick a**" nature, if we need that. He is basically a coward, but with that awful TX incident this week, we are NOT taking this lightly.

Thank you all for the prayers! Love you guys to the moon!

Ex parte~ in NC immediate order of protection!! There is no waiting. My sis the Judge was rather shocked they did not tell her this. She needs immediate protection.

I can only tell her, MoonDancing. It didn't sound quite right to me, either. But she's still very very cautious about making him go off. I think she thought it would make things worse, not better. (And we know how much protection we really NEVER get....) I will talk to her this weekend (we've been emailing all day) and see where she's at with the processes. The good thing was that one of the policeman is the husband of her co-worker, so he knows her.

The past two days he's be "wooing" her -- but she's holding firm. I will pass this along to her, with the form again. Thanks for caring!

Annie I'm impressed you are a force not to be messed with woman!

The only thing about filing a protection order is she better act on it if he does one little thing wrong, for them to take her seriously. Why be cautious with him, he's already shown what he's capable of? Too many think that way and it's backfired on them.

Prayers and hugs,

Toni

MoonDancing, irocket, et.al.,

THANK YOU BEYOND WORDS about the forms. I just completed the Protective Order ex parte, and the required Affidavit for each minor child. I emailed them to her & her older sister (who I discussed this with when she flew back from NOLA, and stopped to get her dog before heading back up to where she lives, close to Jessie). She agreed to help.

I sent a cover letter detailing this all gets in place BEFORE he is notified, gives her temporary custody while she waits out the permanent process, starts the child support while DSS starts the process, and does not take away her visitation, but means the girls can be "exchanged" at a neutral, public location. It says he can't come to her house, or her work, or buy a gun.

MOONDANCING -- tell your sis a big hug and thank you, and prayers. Pray Jessie does this.

Toni, you are SO right about it will explode whenever it happens. And he really doesn't want the kids or her, just wants someone to take care of him. He's 35, for heavens sake, and never lived anywhere except with his parents or a girl, and never paid any of his own bills. Thanks be to a gracious God for placing so many earthly angels in one spot.