I disagree with it being ok for a female to hit a male. I'm appalled at the acceptance of that in any support group. However, I would not respond due to my strong feelings as that creates a firestorm which misses the original purpose of the post being written "for support".

I witnessed in public recently, a female raising her hand with cell phone in it, to hit a male she had been yelling at without cause. I stepped between them, and distracted her long enough for the male to calm down, take care of his business, and we left. The female went to hit me, and the male and I just walked away at that point. I did report the incident with a concise and professional statement along with the male. A disabled male also present gave his account to two different supervisors, and the female has been removed from that location as an employee. The female stepped out of the building yelling and started the entire incident out in public. The female threatened to call the police on both the male and myself. I have had several anxiety attacks since this happened, and just reading your post made me remember like it just happened.

I do agree with you, stay calm, and quiet for your well-being. Silence can be gold.

Part of me feels frustrated by this since I've been physically assaulted by women numerous times in the past and nobody ever seems to care if it's a woman assaulting a man. That's one of the reasons I'm in this group.

Only rarely do I hear or read about women who assault men actually getting in trouble or chastised for it. Another part of why this is frustrating for me is that I know if I were to speak up about it I'd probably get chewed out for it.

Even if there were a gentle way to word it, saying anything about the issue in that discussion would probably ultimately come across as invalidating the person's situation that they're seeking support for.

I have since learned learned that a person called the complaint line when the incident happened which verified what all of us said.

The thing is, the female is still employed. She is now under direct supervision. More information has come out about her behavior towards other males in the same company previously. Everyone is watching, and they know it may take time because she is aware she is being observed regularly, and when something happens, they can take action.

The only thing I can suggest for you is to take a self defense class to guide your appearance to be more alert in a confident pattern without thinking about it.

The pattern of behavior we display is difficult to explain, yet when we make small changes, often it leads to better behavior by others around us.

I offer the self defense class because they often have free classes that can give you enough techniques to help you feel more comfortable.

By not getting involved with a discussion, a meeting, or other place where people are just exchanging their views, you give yourself a break from defending the "he/she, she/he" finger pointing of assault. There is also "big/small, small/big" finger pointing of assault. "Tall/short, short/tall" as well. In any situation, where it could be an event, incident, or situation, there are always comparisons. Not something you have to get involved with.

When a situation happens, keep to the facts, and keep your feelings out of it.

In one case, the investigation took a turn after the investigator took a video of an incident, blocked out the faces, and reviewed the video that way. The female was charged with assault.

Take care of your well-being.