Tabatha was born almost 2 years after Isaiah, so close to 2 years after his death. She was planned. The first several months after Isaiah's death neither one of us wanted another child.
John was also planned. I was having some medical issues that had to be fixed with surgery. But, once I had the surgery, I would not be able to have another child: it would be too risky for both me and the baby.
We were given a 3 month window to conceive.
He was born in Feb. of this year. Isaiah died in Oct. 2006.
How soon you have another child is completely up to you and your husband. There's no time table.

I just wonder how family/friends would take us having another baby. I know for my family it would be scarey too. Im just not sure when I will be ready, I want to be ready now, but im just not. But like I said God is in control. So he knows when its time, and when it is best for my family too. I just wonder if we should start "trying" to have another baby. I told John if we can get through Collins first bday and death date with out a newborn I think I will be ok.

Our rainbow baby can almost a year to the date of Toby's birthday. She was planned. My mom was okay with me being pregnant, my friends were not. I lost most of them because of it, coupled with the fact that they didn't know how to deal with it after I lost Toby. (And I'm in my thirties so my friends and I are young but we're no spring chickens for the most part). I ended up not caring what people thought. I wanted my baby and it was my life. They could either get on board with it or not, didn't matter to me.

We had to do it right awa because I needed a hyseretcomy. Even if I hadn't needed a hysterectomy I am glad that we got pregnant right away. I don't know that we would have if we had waited. But ultimately, it's up to you and your husband when you want to try and when you're ready. Everyone is a little different.

I actually had in-laws come up to my at Isaiah's funeral and ask us when we were going to have another baby, because if we had another one we would be o.k. again. I was livid. I wanted to ask them which of their children they were going to get rid since they all have more than one they'd be fine. DH wouldn't let me. I know it wasn't nice of me to even think that, but I did.
So, once we had Tabatha, so many people thought we were "all better." We lost several friends and stopped talking to some family. Not because they were upset that I had another child, but because they thought we should stop talking about Isaiah and should stop missing him now that we had Tabatha. It got even worse after John was born because now we have another boy.
My family was supportive. I am sure they were afraid for us, but they kept it to themselves.
Like you said, God knows what is best for you and your family. When it happens, just cling to that fact if family and friends don't react how you wish they would.

We left it in Gods hands too and found out we were pregnant less then a month after Elijah passed. We didnt tell everyone at first, only close friends and family. But everyone was very happy and supportive. They helpped me through my fears and it all turned out well. There were those few that would make remarks like its a replacement baby, i wanted to slap them, but overall a positive response and experiance. I believe I needed it to help me get by. Just wish I knew that when I found out.lol

i was already pregnant when we lost waylon we had a hard time getting preg with him after kylie (our 5 year old) and even though we wanted more kids thought would take time if at all so was shocked when it happened quickly have mixed fealings now about a baby we were so excited to have just lost our beautiful son and now have to prepare for a baby comming into all this greif and people seem to think he is some extension of our angel like God had this in his plan but all i see is my greif and worry want him sooo bad but want waylon back i know that sounds wrong but hurt so bad cant imagine startin over again so soon after this loss im afraid he will look like waylon afrid he wont dont know all i ever wanted wasw babies and now im scaired of them

Well its been almost five months since Collin died. I am a little desire in my heart to be pregnant. But I have even more joy over the fact they we may get to adopt sometime in the future. Brooke, a woman I work with, has temp. custody of her cousins 1 yr old daughter. The mother, Brittany, has none of her children. She is bad on drugs and has neglected all of them. Lauren, is the 1 yr old. Since I heard about Brooke having her the thought came to my mind, "I want her, Ill adopt her" So Lauren has been on my heart more and more here lately. So I told Brooke if the mom and dad dont straigten up and get her John (my hubby) and I would want to adopt her. She said absotley we could, but it will be a long time before that descion is made. Im not going to worry about it, If Lauren is suppose to be our daughter, than she will be. God knows his plans for Lauren, as well as for me and John. I am praying hard about it and I really already have such a spot for Lauren there. Im trying not to get overly attatched but I really love her, I have only seen her one time. But I loved her before I met her. Lauren is also 6 mo behind in devolpment b/c of neglect. She also has to see the DR in 2 weeks, there may be something wrong with her hip and she may need surgery. Brooke said I will let you know how it goes, like she is already mine. Anyways, I hope and pray for the best for Lauren. But I would rather adopt right now rather than be pregnant. John wants to start "trying" in Feb. Im not sure if I will be ready then or not, who knows I could be pregnant now :) (I should start in a couple of days) Thanks you guys!!!

I found out I was pregnant only 6 months after my baby became my angel...I was terrified...it was the hardest pregnancy, and even harder when I found out it was a boy...my angel was my only girl, I have two older boys and now I was pregnant with my third.

I was releived and devestated all at the same time...after he was born i stuggled even more, scared that I couldn't bond to this baby cuz he might just die and i couldn't do it ever again...i couldn't sleep, spent so much time watching over him.

But now as we come up on his 3rd bday I find that he and I are so close and I don't know how I would have made it without 'my three sons'

Don't you let anybody tell you how you feel, only you can decide what is right for your family. How you grieve how you cope and when you decide to try again...

Of course a new baby is not a replacement, but it can certainly be a bandage for the huge wound left behind by this loss.

I was pressured into starting right away for the sake of my babies father! He didn't take Kasons death so well that I thought another child would lift his spirits! Had my IUD taken out Jan2010 and was pregnant by Feb2010 4mo after I lost my Kason! It was very hard pregnancy? I was afraid he was going to be an unhappy baby! I was also on depressants while I was pregnant! But he is just the opposite! Gavin was born Nov10 2010 and he is the most happy baby always smiley! I was so depressed wondering if I'm doing the right thing? But I would never take that moment back! I'm debating on taking out my IUD and having another? Even though things are ruff with me right now! Its scary no matter how long you wait? I was paranoid after I had Gavin! Didn't sleep for days after he was born! Follow your heart! Your friends & family will support you!

I had ^Deacon^ May 5th 2010 and he passed away 12 days later. We had always planned to just let fate decide when we would have babies and after our loss we just stuck with that plan. We figured it would be easier to do it that way than to try to get pregnant and feel like a failure if it didn't happen. I found out I was pregnant again in August that year just 3 months after we lost Deacon. I gave birth to baby Nicholas May 6th 2011, 1 year, 1 day, 1 hour, and 1 min after Deacon was born. The pregnancy was hard because I was going through all the test, ultrasounds, finding out the sex, and everything at the exact time I had the year prior sometimes as close as 2 days to the test with my angel. I was worried most of the pregnancy, had nightmares, thought the worst, every time I had a slight cramp I knew I was going to miscarry or something was going to happen to my baby. When I found out he was a boy just the same as my angel I was devastated. All in all though when he had him the world changed and he is the most perfectly crazy, annoying, stubborn, adorable baby boy I could have ever hoped for. All the SIDS precautions about how to sleep and no covers and all that.... this child is the opposite. He will NOT sleep unless he is on his belly, face down on the bed, with a cover over his head. Even with all this though I love my litte man and he helps me smile every day and keep a positive outlook on life.

My brother and SIL just had their 2nd baby 1 year after their 1st baby, henry, died of SIDS. I really worry their new baby girl will suffer the same fate and worry if my family could deal with a loss like that again. Honestly I feel like it was too quick but obvious I know my opinion doesn't matter and what is done is done. I personally am not ready yet to hold another baby because all I want to hold and see Henry and yet he wasn't even my baby. Clearly from reading SIDS sources online every parent reacts differently. Some have another baby right away and some wait a few years. I think as long as you are getting counseling and working through the grief it doesn't matter how long it has been since your child died, just as long as you feel ready to take on another baby now knowing that SIDS can strike any baby.

Counseling is viable option for some people, but is not a method that works for everyone. My husband and I did not go through counseling. There are other ways of dealing with grief that can be just constructive. Counseling is just one of them.

I really like the "IDEA" of being pregnant and having another baby, but truly im just not ready and neither is my husabnd. The hardest part is I want a baby, but I want Collin back not a new baby. It tough realizing that never again will a pregnancy or birth or new born ever be the same, because of what has happened. The innocence of nothin bad happens, is GONE. I know its hard for me to see all the new moms on FB with their babies, feeling like Collin should still be here. I should be posting his pictures for everyone to admire, instead I write post about him being gone and how much I miss and love him. His first birthday is coming soon, i dont know where the time has went, kinda hard to believe. I have lost track of how old he would be and how long he has been gone. I guess time does that to us. Anyways, maybe someday we will be ready. My family is more ready than me, but I hope that we will have the courage to have another one.

I am currently 17 weeks pregnant. I lost Bently on 6/23/11, so it hasnt even been a year yet. This was planned in the fact that we were not using any protection against it, similar to you, we "left it up to God". I am excited but scared at the same time. And honestly, I have not told my family yet, not sure how I am going to or if I even want to. They are not the supportive type and there has been a lot of talk of "is Amber really stupid enough to try to have another child".
Bently was my first, so when I lost him, I lost my whole life and my identity with it. I had become "Bently's mommy" in my mind. Then he was gone, and I had nobody to be a mommy to. I felt so lost and confused.
I know that this baby is not Bently, could never be and will never be. This baby is not a replacement of him, either. This baby is just another piece of me and Brandon for us to be able to love and hopefully raise. So, I guess if people cannot support that, then that is their choice, but I know that I am happy and that is all that matters to me.

The Parents that I babysat for that lost their Mady at my house, has just ~Facebook~ announced that they are expecting their Rainbow Baby in Oct.
Mady became their Angel Aug. 25 2011.
I still watch their son, but have told them I don't think I will be able to watch the new baby.....& that my Prayer for them is that the Mommie can stay home with that child until the one year Birthday!!
Out of my 4 Mom's that I care for their children, 3 of them are expecting! I had to chose only one....& I am a bit uncomfortable with that one due in a month now! I'll probably not take my eyes off of him & he will have to sleep next to me!!