Stress Management Support Group
Stress management defines stress as a person's physiological response to an external stimulus that triggers the "fight-or-flight" reaction.Stress can be overwhelming. This community is for best practices in stress management.
ok this is my first time posting in this forum, i have alot of stress and sometimes its pulling me in alot of different directions i have a daughter with aspergers who is very demanding, i have a wife who is very co dendant and inlaws who are too much in my business, i could go deeper into this but i find myself having incredibly bad sttress management, my doctor put me on zoloft and it is helping a little, anyhow enogh background, i am the type to snap with stress and think later,
today at work, i work in customer service i was on a call, and my coworkers were not, anyhow they were b eing very loud and i could not hear so i put my call on mute and say guys can you keep it down i am on the phone. my next door neighbor decides this is her opportunity to take a dig at me, and says, well i hear you from the minute you walk in the door everyday, so me, i say excuse me, and she gets nasty and says it again. i say whatever and go back on the phone, now she says, tomorrow are you gonna go run into our bosses office, so again i put my caller on hold and say I told you i am on the phone, can you please be quiet, and then i say, BTW no i wont run into our bosses office i am an adult i will take care of my problem on my own, would you like me to do that now. then i go back on the phone, but for the rest of my day my blood was boiling, and i was on edge, i am afriad for tomorrow cause if she opens her mouth to me, i dont think i can control myself again
today at work, i work in customer service i was on a call, and my coworkers were not, anyhow they were b eing very loud and i could not hear so i put my call on mute and say guys can you keep it down i am on the phone. my next door neighbor decides this is her opportunity to take a dig at me, and says, well i hear you from the minute you walk in the door everyday, so me, i say excuse me, and she gets nasty and says it again. i say whatever and go back on the phone, now she says, tomorrow are you gonna go run into our bosses office, so again i put my caller on hold and say I told you i am on the phone, can you please be quiet, and then i say, BTW no i wont run into our bosses office i am an adult i will take care of my problem on my own, would you like me to do that now. then i go back on the phone, but for the rest of my day my blood was boiling, and i was on edge, i am afriad for tomorrow cause if she opens her mouth to me, i dont think i can control myself again
When someone is being asked not to do something (in this case talking loudly) and they reply by saying that the requesting party does the same, the best response I know is to say something like, "if I do what I'm asking you to stop doing, then I welcome you, at that time, to ask me to stop. Right now, I have a client on the phone, and noises that I've made in the past which I was not brought to my attention as bothersome is irrelevant".
Some people would rather complain than seek solutions. Chances are, on some unconscious level, this person resents that she was unable, for whatever reason, to address with you what you were able to address with her. And she may also just be the type who would rather have conflict. Don't play. You can decide to be better than her. :-)
i took my oldest daughter out to his house tonight to see him, i went infor a couple minutes but thats it, i get a phone call just now its him screaming at me at 12:30 am, saying why was i in his upstairs, i said i was not, he yelled more saying he knows i was up there and i robbed him, i did nto rob him nor was i upstairs, he gave my daughters 50 dollars each for their birthdays and their report cards, so i am guessing he does no remember doing that. so i reminded him and he screamed more, he told me he hasnt taken his pills in a long long time, so he is delusional, i just cant deal with it, he is someone who emotionally abused me as a child and i am not taking it as an adult