I am divorced. I have a six year old son from my previous marriage, and I'm remarried with a now three year old son. In June of this year, things were really bad in my household because my older son would spend half the week with us and the other half with his dad and grandparents. He was acting up in school and treating his brother really bad. It got to the point where no matter how we disciplined him, he would not adhere to our rules (because he had no rules with his daddy). So, it didn't seem like whatever we did to try to correct his behavior worked because of him going back and forth between households. It was causing a rift between my husband and I because I felt like I was caught in the middle, and it was a complete nightmare.

Now my son lives with his father, but actually spends most of his time with my ex inlaws because his dad works a lot. For a while there, I was gong to visit him. But he refuses to come to our house. And it's very upsetting. So, I haven't seen my son in over a month because the whole situation is a mess. I want to be a good mom, but I know that if I make him come to our house, he will raise hell. So, I just leave it be. I don't know if anyone else is going through this, but I could certainly use some advice. It's a heavy burden in my heart and I'm stressed out from not talking to my son. But I feel like my hands are tied. What should I do?