Stress Management Support Group
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So...I realize that I stress out a lot. So it's following that it would be of use to me to learn how to relax.
But having depressive issues with no real way to handle them that has worked for me, I'm much more used to hiding behind things than actually using things for enjoyment. It seems that I've found ways to abuse everything I've tried...from following soccer to doing puzzles to most recently Scrabble and its cousins.
This is turning into a pain in the behind because I need really badly to find something that will work soon...since I'm studying to get an AS in paralegal studies and currently working on certification for the part-time job I have...spare time is there but I'm throwing it away, basically.
My heart feels right now that nothing is safe enough to try or go back to because the potential for abusing it is too high. I suppose it's not as bad as having a drug or alcohol problem but it's still pretty bad.
I've reached the point where I am out of ideas and so I'm taking a chance on posting this. Sorry for whining.
(Note for those bothering to read this: I have tried CBT but have always been derailed by trying to sort my thoughts which seems to be beyond what I'm capable of. DBT hasn't worked either because of the fears named above.)
But having depressive issues with no real way to handle them that has worked for me, I'm much more used to hiding behind things than actually using things for enjoyment. It seems that I've found ways to abuse everything I've tried...from following soccer to doing puzzles to most recently Scrabble and its cousins.
This is turning into a pain in the behind because I need really badly to find something that will work soon...since I'm studying to get an AS in paralegal studies and currently working on certification for the part-time job I have...spare time is there but I'm throwing it away, basically.
My heart feels right now that nothing is safe enough to try or go back to because the potential for abusing it is too high. I suppose it's not as bad as having a drug or alcohol problem but it's still pretty bad.
I've reached the point where I am out of ideas and so I'm taking a chance on posting this. Sorry for whining.
(Note for those bothering to read this: I have tried CBT but have always been derailed by trying to sort my thoughts which seems to be beyond what I'm capable of. DBT hasn't worked either because of the fears named above.)
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I'm sorry to hear you are having such a hard time. Have you tried seeking professional help? Or tried talking to your friends?
I've found a couple of friends here willing to help but since they're usually not on when I am, progress is far too slow compared to what I need to gain over the next month. It is a VERY scary situation right now.
Thanks for posting. You helped me a lot in a very stressfull moment :-)
Have you tried something like just chamomile tea or something like that? That's a natural way to relax. I used to grow the stuff! LOL
You would have to be careful not to overdo any relaxing substance, though.
Chamomile is good - catnip tea is another. I used to use these myself and would be good if I did again too - they do work.
Ever try the warm milk thing? Everybody I mention it to, says "oh gross" - its not pleasant but it has helped me sleep.
just wanted to mention those - I had not before.