Hello your son is quite ungrateful but after all he got what he wants the house, hope you have ownership of your section, as you say the relationship is not good , you did all you could to help, but at the same time being older you should be wise and make sure he cannot throw you out. Hope he realises what he is doing to your feelings and be grateful for all the help you have given him..Try not to stress , its bad for your health, best wishes.

Hi and thank you soooo much for your reply. No, I do not have ownership of any part of this house. He got the loan for the remainder (after my down payment) in his name. If he does try to throw me out, it would be very difficult to do so, but, if he wanted me out, I would want to leave anyway and I do have other places to go. Him grateful?? I'm not even hoping for gratefullness at this point. What I am hoping for is that he at least just stops verbally attacking me. I'm just trying to avoid him at this point. His new wife (of under 2 yrs.) has not even thanked me for all my help either. But, again, would just prefer a quiet, peacefull life at this point. I had THREE full months of fighting with him, being called names, told I "needed help", etc. when I was here to handle all the contractors who were in and out of here. PAYING them. Dealing with answering their questions, CONSTANT dry wall dust in my living area, paint dust, walking around with a mask on, flooding in my living area,,,,, on and on and then get blame from my son, no gratitude and just repeated attacks. Ok. I've said enough. Thank you so much for listening. I guess just needed a sounding board for a while.

Essentially, you gave him the down payment to purchase this new home? Was there a loan contract of any kind or did you just give him the monies without expectation of repayment on the terms that you would live there? If there's nothing in writing about the monies borrowed, he absolutely can evict you from the house. My suspicion is that he doesn't have it in his conscience to tell you to leave but wants you to go, therefore the poor attitude. We can't go backwards in life, we can only go forward so I would apply all your resources into getting into your own place to get some piece of mind where you don't have to tolerate the verbal abuse. After that, the money faucet needs to be turned off. If you don't give respect in life, you should expect to receive it. That's going to be your sons lesson to be learned. Shame on him for his behavior! You are his mother and this type of abuse should never take place or be tolerated by you. Adult or not, it's time he learned one of life's lessons! He and his poor excuse of a character of a wife!