Don't be so hard on yourself. Financial problems leads to more stress which leads to more anger issues. I'm not saying your behavior was ideal but it is understandable. It's a positive thing that you at least recognize that this is not the type of behavior you want to continue and that you are looking for ways to change that. It's a great first step. Don't give up just look for something that may help; maybe a relaxing hobby, some breathing exercises when you feel yourself getting overwhelmed or stressed, exercise or do some aromatherapy. No one is perfect just do some trial and error and see what helps.

If you can see something is wrong maybe you need to talk to a professional.Obviously you have lots of anger stored up over something and it's coming out at the wrong time and at the wrong people.Some previous situation has set you up to blow and you need to work through it and identify it before you do permanent damage to the major relationships in your life.As a woman I will tell you point blank,it is very scary when a man yells or displays severly angry behaviuor,you don't sound like the type who wants to go around upsetting everyone.A good therapist can help you work through your anger and anxiety and help you identify what is setting you off.Give it a try.

I worked through a goodly part of it myself last night and this morning, squared some of it away with phone calls and took a long drive reviewing my past to determine where such anger comes from. I found leads in my relationships with my parents, particularly mother and it ain't pretty.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!