If you can store it there for awhile I would suggest doing that. Sophia's room became almost a shrine for the better part of a year in my house until I woke up one day and I was ready to take it down and it felt right, I think doing it any sooner would have just caused more pain than I could have handled, (although any amount of pain on top of the pain of losing a baby is too much), and a few months after that I gave most of it away to a friend who couldn't afford any of her own stuff, but I went through it all carefully and kept the stuff I had bought for her or that my mom had bought because they were still special to me and I gave away all the hand me downs and extras.

The best advice I can give you is don't force yourself to deal with it, it's just stuff right now you need to focus on yourself, you've been through literally the worst thing a parent can experience and you need time to heal, don't let anyone pressure you to make a decision even if they mean well because you don't need any more pain in your life today.

Big hugs to you honey, I promise you that it won't always hurt this bad, I'm about 3 1/2 years in and I can tell you it does get better.

I kept everything as well. I just put the items away so that I wouldn't have to look at them. I had maternity clothes that I gave to my sister, because she was pregnant. I just asked that she didn't wear them in front of me. (She lived quite a distance away from me so this wasn't an issue.) I already had a son and had lost a little boy, so a lot of my baby items were boy related. When I had a little girl about a year after my loss I wasn't able to use the boy items anyway. I just think I needed to know they were there even though I didn't want them out in the open.

I agree with SophiasMom that it does get better with time. One never forgets, but time does help to heal. A big hug from me as well!

Thank you for the advice. The stuff my mom bought me, I'm going to keep, at least for now. I don't think my mom can bear to part with it yet either. But I received some things from friends, some baby furniture and other misc. things, do I offer to give it back?

You could see if they would mind you keeping it a little longer if you are planning on trying again in the fairly new future. If they no longer need it I"m sure they won't mind you holding onto things....

All of my bubs thing were taken to my inlaws. It stayed there for about 18 months. Then I moved it to my mums house. I want to sell it now. I've been trying to get preg for two years since I lost my daughter and I'm almost 30 so now I'm thinking it's getting to late for another bub. I have two at school.
Just keep it stored if u can. It's only going to be in your face all the time if it's not.

I haven't touched Autumn's room. Bc we were almost term we had everything ready for her. I still go in and sit in the middle of the floor and just imagine her living there. Its only been two months since we lost her so I dont know what to tell ya. I feel that each person is going to feel different. You do what is right for you whether its holding on to everything forever or blessing someone else with her stuff. We are going to try again so I am keeping everything, but thats just me. I hope you find peace in whatever you decide to do:)

I was blessed with an abundance of Baby Stuff. Together, painfully and with a lot of tears we generally sorted out the items that I wanted to keep and what items I wanted to move. I put them in safe containers. I did not look and remember every article and every person who gave it to me, I did a general look and the rest we took and donated to a charity. At first I felt somewhat guilty donating the gifts but It was very peaceful to know that my loss would be of great benefit to them. There is no way to place a dollar sign on any of those items at that time and I didn't care about making anything. Donation just felt right for us. So within the first week we took it in one big trip. But it didn't stop there, its been a long time before I could use the room for anything else. Right now, almost 6 yrs later it is set up as a craft room or a tv room for my 19yo daughter upstairs. Although I still do not want to be in that room.

What ever you choose, be kind to yourself and try not to doubt your decision - as doing the right thing. Make your best choice for you and your husband. That's all we can do.

Hugs.

I lost my daughter almost 10 months ago and her room is still the same. I was past due so her nursery was completely ready and it will probably stay that way until we have another baby. Do what feels right to you and don't ever feel bad for it. One time i tried to start putting stuff away and had one heck of a breakdown and decided i won't do that again. It's different for all of us, just follow your heart. I am so sorry for your loss, hugs!

It's been ten months for me and all of our son's things are in a storage area of our home. We are about to start IVF treatments but I can not imagine using any of the things for another baby. They were meant for my son and it does not feel right to me, especially the crib. I guess for now we will wait and see how IVF goes but I can not stand to even look at all of the baby things.

I lost my son recently, and I found what helped me was to put his clothes and toys, and other things in plastic totes and kept them in my house. To me I felt guilty when I would think of getting rid of anything, and by keeping his things it made me feel closer to him some how...but everyone has to do what feels right to them..

I had my mom clear everything out of the room while I was in the hospital. I couldn't stand the thought of coming home with empty arms and having to deal with everything. They stored in in the garage and outside in a storage shed...I will use it for a new baby once we start trying again. I do agree, everyone has to do what feels right to them.

We lost our little girl right at the end, just less than a week after our baby shower, so everything was set up and there was tiny clean laundry EVERYWHERE the day we went into the hospital.

For my hubby and I, what felt right was to pack away all of the clothes and supplies into totes and then into the nursery closet (I did this with the help of my mom and SIL). We kept the room decorated and the crib set up. I actually find it kind of nice to look in there every day. It brings back good memories too, not just pain, because I remember how much love my husband put into preparing for our baby.

We also plan to try again in a few months, and I didn't want to have to leave the door shut for a year. :(

If you feel as though you truly want to send away your baby things rather than hang onto them (I felt the same with my stillbirth) you can certainly donate them to a goodwill type organization. I felt good knowing that another baby had a crib that would normally not have one...I felt like I honored my boys that way.