Stillbirth Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have been impacted by a stillbirth. A stillbirth occurs when a fetus which has died in the uterus, during labor, or during delivery exits a woman's body. For help and support, share your experiences and learn how others coped. Don't forget that you are not alone.

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RenaMc
RenaMc
A close friend of mine lost one of her twins at birth six years ago. Today she found out her best friend is expecting twins. She is happy for her friend, yet can't stop crying for her loss. She is reaching out to me and I don't know how to help her.
deleted_user
deleted_user
The best thing you can do is hug her, let her cry and listen. Ask her about the child she lost, say the childs name when you ask her to tell you about him/her.The fact that someone mentions her childs name and doesnt shy away from it will mean SO MUCH to her. Hugs to both of you
deleted_user
deleted_user
Listen. Accept her feelings. Realize the pain never goes away. Offer a hug. Don't tell her to get over it. Ask her about her baby, the baby's name. You are a great friend to seek advice & want to support her.
BundlesofJoy
BundlesofJoy
I don't ever want to be pregnant with twins again. So many things can go wrong. And it did for me. Identical twins are even more risky.

I've been through a living nightmare. One stillborn & the other living for only 3 1/2 months (due to hospital negligence). 2 weeks of her life was fine. After 2 weeks she coded. They were able to revive her but she was never the same. I guess she was in a coma. I had to endure seeing her get blood transfusions, being hooked up on a respirator, turning blue when the tube got loose. She died 3 months later. So I had 2 funerals 3 months a part.

It's now almost 2 years later. I still cry for my Ashley. I'm happy to hear a successful twin pregnancy story. But I will never understand why my sister started to verbally insult me when I was preggo with my twins, regardless of the fact that she had 2 girls of her own & a husband. Amazing how some people, even though they have something, they may not want someone else to feel that joy. But your own sister?? I will never understand that.