Stillbirth Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have been impacted by a stillbirth. A stillbirth occurs when a fetus which has died in the uterus, during labor, or during delivery exits a woman's body. For help and support, share your experiences and learn how others coped. Don't forget that you are not alone.

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KezzB 07/07/2012

Since my baby dies. The world hasnt stopped. All I want is someone to take over being me for a while. My baby was still born at 39 weeks due to an infection in my uterus that was undetecterd on 26 march 2012. Since them no one has offered to take my daughter to school, no one offered to take my ace at work, no one offered to cook my dinner n bath the kids. As much as I love the kids I have with me id still love to just stay in beds grieve the my baby. No one wants to give me a break. I still go to work,cook,clean,school run,day care run,shopping all that stuff. No one
Offered to do it for me. I'm about to crack n say F the world just for a while to let me make sance of what has happended.

deleted_user 07/07/2012

Awe, Is there anyone who you can ask to help you out for a bit?

KezzB 07/07/2012

I'v asked but no one under stand why I can't do it.

zoweestar 07/08/2012

I agree you need time to grieve the loss of your baby. We are changed forever and it will take time to adjust. Last month I could barely do my usual routine. Now that I'm on vacation I'm a lot more sane. People around me also had a difficult time understanding and some still don't understand. It's such a difficult journey we are Going through. I'm so sorry you are going through this.

deleted_user 07/08/2012

Thats frustrating when we explain how we are feeling and people still dont get it.

Im learning from experience that people have no concept of how deep our grief is, and it can be very hurtful. Especially when it's someone that is a good firend or family member.

terranickole 07/08/2012

I'm in that same place, I had to go back to work 2 weeks after we lost oliver and I have not gotten a chance to just sit back and take all this in. I need some time for me.

deleted_user 07/09/2012

I am so sorry that you are feeling so alone and unsupported in your grief. While your DS sisters cannot be of any practical help, please know that we all understand and care about what you are going thru. Please ask someone for the help you need. I pray that whoever you ask will be responsive to your needs.

deleted_user 07/09/2012

The hardest part about asking for help is it brings all the pain back that I felt when Neo passed away. I need help but it hurts.

deleted_user 07/10/2012

I am so sorry for your loss. That must be terrible for you to have no help. I wish i could help you in someway. I will be praying for you. Please know you are not alone through this difficult time. Hang in there. Please vent if needed! I will be a listening ear.

deleted_user 07/12/2012

Where do you live? How awful that you haven't gotten any help. I don't know why some people don't take the loss of a baby seriously...I guess if you haven't been through it, it's hard to understand. But it's so difficult to process the grief in the midst of having to go through the daily grind. I wish there was a way we could help, and I'm so sorry you have to go through this

deleted_user 07/12/2012

I can completely relate, I went back to work one week after and its been 6 weeks and everybody seems to think I'm fine and back to normal but the truth is anybody who has suffered a loss like us will never know "normal" again. I saw a great analogy called "Stillbirth - The wall" It summarizes exactly how I feel. You can find it here:http://www.uk-sands.org/support/personal-experiences/personal-experience-index/stillbirth/stillbirth-the-wall.html

KezzB 07/13/2012

thanks for your support every one.
@ Zachariah71, that was a beautiful link to share.
i was back at work after 6 weeks because that was the amount of time babies can go into day care.
i work in an occasional care center in a gym looking after children, i would have had my baby there with me, along with my son and daughter too.
my husband had to go back the next day :( being the boss of his section of building his manager gave I'm no time off, and i can see he is struggling. he will only get time off over Christmas when all the trades men go on their holidays

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