No, you are not the only one, especially ones where people have adden there own message saying, i hope you feel better soon. With me every single thing that people were saying to me just made me angry, even though i knew there were just trying to make me feel better i felt people did not understand how i really was feeling.

My husband and I decided to have Neo's shower after he was born so our friends and family could see and hold him. It didn't bother me initially after Neo's passing. But now, I wish we had celebrated him earlier in the pregnancy. All we have are sympathy cards.

I didnt mind the sympathy cards to much. people were nice in the cards I got, but when I would see them in person , they would say some really mest up stuff.. I didnt get any card or phone call from my In-laws at all. But I got an invitation to my sister in-laws wedding. So she could send out an invitation to her wedding, but she couldnt send a card out or call me to say she was sorry for my loss.. ugh! Can you tell I dont like her very much? haha..people can be so mean.

I don't think I ever hated the cards... I was surprised my mother in law never sent one. other family did and our friends and neighbors did. Our cards were really lovely and it made us feel good that our little girl made such an impression on our community even though they never got to meet her in person. It helped me form falling into that foggy space of wondering if it was all real...Some made me cry, and I haven't been able to read since but I keep them in her memory box and some will be in her scrapbook... I was more angry at a couple of people's interactions or lack of them and my MIL also said something inappropriate at one point too, like, 'moving on so you can have the next...'. I understand it is an old school way of thinking but it pissed me off!
Anyway... most of them I barely remember I was in such a fog... take care {hug}

I really appreciated most of the sympathy cards we got. My doctor, friends, family, co-workers, were all really nice and most people congratulated us on our beautiful angel, while expressing their care and concern for us.

There was only once card that we received that really bothered me, and still does to this day.. it was from my fiances grandma, who he has only met once and does not have a relationship with. In the card she told us she was sorry for our loss, and then went on to say "but.. God has a plan for everyone. Babies deserve to grow up in married, loving families that have the means to support them and give them the best life they can. You will get your baby in the future when you are ready.." WHAT WAS THIS LADY THINKING?!?! First off.. we aren't married YET because we postponed the wedding to have our angel, and then cancelled the wedding after losing her because we just couldn't do it at the time. Just because we haven't had a ceremony to officially get married does not mean in any way that we don't love each other, and that the baby would not grow up in a loving home. Second off.. we both work AND we both own a business, and we make plenty of money to support a baby... (but I am a college student, so she was stereotyping). And third off.. get our baby when we are ready?! we were ready... for our angel daughter! She would of been well taken care of and grown up in a family and taught good morals and values, and would have gotten everything she could need and want, to a reasonable point.
I was just appalled at this card.

Sorry for the rant, but I can understand how the sympathy cards can be upsetting because nobody is recognizing the birth of your angel, or your angel's life, just the fact that your little one isn't with you anymore. I did appreciate those who congratulated us on the birth, as well, and I think that is why I was happy to receive these cards.

((hugs))