Stillbirth Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have been impacted by a stillbirth. A stillbirth occurs when a fetus which has died in the uterus, during labor, or during delivery exits a woman's body. For help and support, share your experiences and learn how others coped. Don't forget that you are not alone.

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MeJustHere 04/12/2012

I've written before about my cousin who is pregnant. And to announce her pregnancy she put it on Facebook and tagged me in it. We aren't close and we don't even live in the same state. She's had 4-5 abortions because she uses them as birth control. And now all of a sudden, she's keeping this baby.

Well, I just found out she's having a boy. I had a boy. Braedyn David. And I'm not taking this news very well. She gets to murder all those poor babies and then decide that she wants to keep this one and now she's having a boy?! Life is so UNFAIR!

We lost Braedyn on 10-12-10 and have been trying to get pregnant since January of '11. We have no living children and have fertility issues. My cousin isn't married (not that I'm saying you have to be!) and she sleeps with everyone! IT ISN'T FAIR! Why does she get to pick and choose?!

Sometimes I just wanna give up. I've lost my faith in God. And I don't know how to get it back. And I'm losing my faith in life.

terranickole 04/12/2012

I too have lost my faith, life does not make sence whatsoever, a friend of mine from childhood has no job, lives with parents, lost custody of her 2 older kids, and gets knocked up by some teenager (we are 35) and she had her baby boy a week before we lost our Oliver who we tried a long time for and wanted dearly and we don't get to keep Ollie and she gets to have her son? How does that make sence or how can that even be right? I'm very angry and bitter over this I would give anything to have my son back and I don't know why we lost him and its driving me absolutely crazy

deleted_user 04/12/2012

I remember losing my son, and someone telling me that it was probably for the best because I wouldn't have been ready to be a mom at 18.

Shortly after, the show "16 and pregnant" came out. I remember thinking, "Okay, so 16 year olds are ready to have kids and get to keep theirs...and act completely unreasonable, bratty and irresponsible on television...but my baby died?"

It is COMPLETELY unfair. I lost my faith for a very long time as well.

I'm not going to say I understand at all why your cousin gets to have a healthy baby after murdering many bafore while you suffer. How is it that crackhead moms and whores give birth everyday while there are healthy, responsible, good people who can't even get pregnant?

I don't know what to say except for you're right, I can relate, and I'm here for you. (((((hugs)))))

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