i am so sorry...i know how you feel. i have not been trying as long as you, but the frustration of trying and getting no where i feel it 2. and people who do not deserve babies , getting pregnant so eaisly is killing me too.
it is not fair, not fair at all.
big hugs to you, and hopefully you get your rainbow soon.
xo

Oh, that IS hard to take. It's hard enough to see strangers walking around pregnant or with new borns when they look really unhealthy, never mind when it's family. Why would she 'tag' you!!! That's so insensitive!! That whole facebook announcement in the face of your loss is just RUDE RUDE RUDE! Rude enough to not call, or even message you privately, then to just tag you, ugh!! You have every right to your anger. Cry it out. I'm crying too because of insensitive cousins. Damn family, can't pick 'em. My son died similar time to yours (sep 2010), and we're not pregnant yet either, and having to hear all about cousin's newborns, so feeling for you x

I dont have a facebook anymore, thank god..it can be a lot like highschool..That was mean of her, She could have kindly send you a message or have called you.

Have you considered doing any testing to see why you haven't gotten pregnant? I only ask because after Kamryn was stillborn in 2006 I had several miscarriages, did fertility treatments and procedure etc before discovering I had polyps in my uterus. They were discovered during a hydrosonogram (very painless water procedure). having a polyp(s) can cause miscarriage or even prevent implantation (making it so you can't conceive). Once I had the polyp(s) removed I got pregnant the very next cycle. Just a thought, maybe you could check into it for your benefit?!

On to your cousin, I'm so sorry this has happened mama. It's so hard not to be mad at everyone around for having babies. We have a great family friend who just had a baby and while we are happy for them, we are both very jealous that it's them and not us. (((BIG HUGS))) mama.

I have PCOS so I only get like 2-4 periods a year. I take Metformin to help me get my period and that has been working. I have also tried 3 rounds of Clomid. Other than all this, I don't know if I have anything else affecting my being able to get pregnant. I just finished my cycle so I've been taking my temperature every morning waiting til it goes up and then I'll pee on the stick to see if I'm ovulating! Haha! What fun my life has become! (NOT!)

I do want to be happy for my cousin. But I can't support the choices she's made in her life and so this makes it so hard for me to happy for her. And I think I could definitely have handled it better if she had messaged me privately or text me or ANYTHING other than tag me in it. Because now everytime someone comments on it I GET THE NOTIFICATION TOO!! Gee, thanks.

I'm glad that you're trying something for the PCOS. I did 9 rounds of clomid, 2 IUI's, 1 gonal-f, and the hydrosongram, and a hysterscopy with polypectomy before I carried Bodie to term. I hope good things are to come mama, I'll be thinking about you with my whole heart!!

Defriend her. Or at least hide that thread. Do something so you dont have to see that sadistic feed...it's torture for you and you need the opposite, calm and encouragement, so configure your FB to control your feed for YOU. I have had to defriend and hide a few people. I even put some on my block list so i see Nothing at all that they post anywhere on FB even if i tried looking for it. Like my husbands X (my stepkids mom)... she's nowhere close to the behavior of your cousin but she has done and continues to do things that i never ever imagined a mother would do to her kids. I actually had been in a social group with her way before i met my husband, so i was FB friends with her and people from that group. Later when i met my husband and met his kids and started getting serious, i had to "protect" myself and my vulnerable developing step relationships so i started "cleaning up" my facebook, purging and blocking her and all those people who ended up being caddy, gossipy, nosey, insensitive, judgemental, and even manipulative and passive aggressive. I did this last year when we were getting married. I felt relueved and free to be myself and enjoy my wedding more and able to express it and celebrate it authentically with others on FB since i no longer had to worry about that negative force out there. Now when all this shock and trauma and grief hit us when we lost our baby about 4 weeks ago, i was SOOOOOOOOOO glad i had already "cleaned up" my FB because i REALLY needed to reach out to people fast but i was SOOO vulnerable and couldnt risk any added negativity of any form but i alreadt new FB would be on ok place to express some things and continue to be connected with others because i had widdled mine down to people i could trust to be sensitive and supportive. Personally, i think what your coysin did, tagging you, was insensitive and wrong. Obviously i don't know her, but given the behavior you describe, i'm left curious about her motives of tagging you. I am so sorry you are put in this position. My thoughts are with you!!!!!

we just found out Friday that my fiancee's sister is pregnant so I know exactly how you feel, why rub it in our face, everyone in the family keeps saying they were so worried about how we would react and I'm like if they were really that concerned then they should have done the smart thing and kept it from us. We are devastated I was also told by one of the other sisters to not "ruin" this for the pregnant sister with our problems. Can you believe it? People who haven't been in this position are so freaking heartless it makes me sick. I'm soooo sorry you are going through this I feel your anger as I'm right there with you. sending you lots of hugs xxx

I can just feel your deep hurt and frustration. Im so sorry and really do understand why you feel this way. Especially with how she went about things on facebook. That would hurt me as well and I know the sting of it all wont fade for quite a while. Im so sorry and hope that you will conceive your rainbow soon since you have waited so long already.

BIG BIG ((HUGS))

I'm so sorry your cousin linked you to her announcement. I mean, why? What was she hoping to accomplish? I also have had feelings of anger over people getting pregnant who don't seem like they "deserve" to. I read today that Snooki from "Jersey Shore" is pregnant. It's just like, really? That little party skank gets pregnant so easily?

That is so freaking rude! I'm assuming she knows about your loss? I don't understand what she was hoping to accomplish. I would untag yourself and defriend her- is anyone asks just say that it's hard for you to be around pregnancy right now.

I remember after I lost my baby, that show "16 and pregnant" came out. And that news story about that group of girls in high school who all made a pact to get pregnant before they graduated or whatever. I remember thinking, "WTF? Why do these people who are totally irresponsible and are milking their babies for fame get to have happy, healthy children and I lost my son?" I still don't understand. It's so unfair...

Hang in there momma! Huge hugs to you!