My 19 year old niece just had a baby girl born at 25 weeks. My niece did not want her baby. The day she found out she was pregnant she called me to ask if I would take the baby once it was born, at which point I said no and had to remind her of my recent loss. She drank alcohol and took drugs the entire time she was pregnant. When she began having contractions at 23 weeks she was admitted to the hospital and told she would have to remain there until her due date or risk an early delivery. She left the hospital two times against the advice of her doctors. The entire time she was calling me and complaining about her hospital stay. The nerve! I told her she should be thankful she has an opportunity to eventually bring a baby home unlike me who had to bury my baby. My point is that in addition to our losses we must face the injustice that people like her, who should never be given the opportunity to be a parents, are somehow granted that undeserved blessing. She did everything humanly possible to try and have a miscarriage and now that poor baby is having to fight for its life being born too early. It has been so tough to deal with. She even called me asking to visit her and the baby in the hospital. I had to remind her yet again that a maternity ward is the last place on earth I want to visit since my son's stillbirth. Facing situations like this make my grief process just that much more difficult. Any advice on dealing with this situation?