Stillbirth Support Group

This community is dedicated to those who have been impacted by a stillbirth. A stillbirth occurs when a fetus which has died in the uterus, during labor, or during delivery exits a woman's body. For help and support, share your experiences and learn how others coped. Don't forget that you are not alone.

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MeJustHere 08/21/2011

I lost my son 10 months ago. And for the most part, I am doing pretty well. I can smile more. Laugh louder. And go whole days without crying. Until some random thing happens. I work at a high school. And when Braedyn died, a co-worker sent out an email letting everyone know what happened. Mind you, this was 10 months ago. On Tuesday, another teacher came up to me and asked me how my little boy was...I was shocked. I didn't know what to say. And it took all I had to not cry. And after I said, "Well, I had a stillbirth at 27 weeks," her response was, "That's so sad. I'm sorry." And walked away. Just left me standing there. I get that people don't understand it. But seriously? And I have had so many other emotions going on, that THAT was the last thing I needed. We've been trying to get pregnant again because we want a family so bad. But I have PCOS and it is really really hard for me to get pregnant. It took us 2 1/2 years to get pregnant with our angel. I've been taking Metformin but other than making me really sick; I've gotten nowhere with it. I AM SO FRUSTRATED! Just with life in general. When am I going to be able to breathe again?! When do I get to start my happily ever after?!

Thanks for listening...

deleted_user 08/22/2011

i wish I had answers for you, but for what it is worth... we are 6 months out and I have many days where it just hits me and I am down for the count for the rest of the day. That lady was way out of line... I am sorry that people are not more educated on this loss. You are not alone in this place... Hold on until you can breathe again... it is coming.

deleted_user 08/22/2011

It has been 10 months exactly for me as well since losing our baby girl at 27 weeks. There are days when I feel like giving up, throwing in the towel and forgetting about life. That woman must not have known what happened to you and your angel. I have had similar instances where unknowingly a stranger or someone close to me gives me such a set back in my grieving that they could never know the impact they just had. It feels like I'm doing good most days and then suddenly the smallest thing - even a song or a smell takes me back to October and I'm right back in the fresh, raw wounds of losing my baby.
I don't know what to tell you about ttc - my best friend has PCOS and has been trying for 3 yrs without success. Metformin, clomid, now injections... it breaks my heart that this happens to you lovely ladies. It's just not fair.
I do know that you will breathe again, you will be able to go on although it feels impossible right now. You are surrounded by supportive, caring people here on DS and you can always lean on us.

deleted_user 08/22/2011

I know the feeling - went to a 12 year old bday on saturday - prepared to handle her little sister adn any other little children and walked straight into - where's the baby? It shook me to my toes - the second time in 4 days. After that i sat at the table adn had some cake, but everything got to me - parent and grandparents playing with the children.... They shouldhave been spoiling my colleen too. It hurt so much that not even the beauty of the venue could change my mind... we left after just over an hour ... i couldn't handle it and cried the whole way home. One day we will over come!

deleted_user 08/22/2011

I will pray that you get your rainbow baby and your happily ever after, soon. You deserve it. All of us deserve it. Peace and Hugs to you.

deleted_user 08/22/2011

oh no, poor you. its so hard when people ask awkward questions.
i too have pcos, it took years to have our first son, and then took 2 years to get pregnant again with matilda ( who was stillborn).

the hospital suggested i try the GI PCOS diet as they have realised that pcos is caused by too much sugar and processed foods, which will lead to diabetes and other health issues.
already i have lost over a stone in weight (in 8 weeks). basically u cut out sugar and glucose and fat, and stick to wholemeal alternatives for pasta, bread etc and eat fruit and stick to low fat milk, cheese. i use agave syrup to sweeten drinks.
it takes a lot of label checking on foods but its nicer than metformin ( which made me sick and put weight on). i don't even crave sweet foods or junk food any more, and hoping as my waist is reappearing that my pcos will get better too.
i seem to eat less now, and feel loads better. mail me for more info if you want to chat about it.
here's a link about it,

http://www.drbriffa.com/2010/05/20/low-gi-diet-helps-women-with-pcos-but-is-there-something-that-might-work-better/
hope this helps.
big hugs to ya
helen

deleted_user 08/22/2011

there is a bit more info on this web site.

http://www.annecollins.com/low-gi-diet-for-pcos.htm

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