Stillbirth Support Group
This community is dedicated to those who have been impacted by a stillbirth. A stillbirth occurs when a fetus which has died in the uterus, during labor, or during delivery exits a woman's body. For help and support, share your experiences and learn how others coped. Don't forget that you are not alone.
since my daughter was born still after 34 weeks of pregnancy . I still grieve her with all my heart and miss her every day. I cry every day but not as much as I did. Im not traumatized anymore even though I think I will never be over this tragedy completely. I feel alot better and Im starting to get happy again even though I dont have my daughter with me. The relationship between me and my boyfriend is really improving and everything seems to be moving up. I see some light at the end of the tunnel.
But I have some guilt. I dont go as often to her grave or look at pictures of her. Its like I cant do it. I dont know if Im trying to block the memories out. Maybe because Im trying to hold on to the fact Im feeling a little bit better. I want to be able one day to have her picture up and look at the things we got from the hospital and put all the pictures of her in a memory book. Maybe its just temporary. But Im really think Im starting to heal.
But I have some guilt. I dont go as often to her grave or look at pictures of her. Its like I cant do it. I dont know if Im trying to block the memories out. Maybe because Im trying to hold on to the fact Im feeling a little bit better. I want to be able one day to have her picture up and look at the things we got from the hospital and put all the pictures of her in a memory book. Maybe its just temporary. But Im really think Im starting to heal.
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Awe, Thats good you deserve to heal from your loss. I remember putting Logans ultrasound pictures up on our living room wall. At first I hung the pictures on the back wall and could only look at it very quickly. It was to painful. Over tme I would look at it a little longer and if I felt like crying I would. Sometimes I would smile when looking at them. Now Logans pictures are hung over the fiire place where everyone can see them. I think you are doing great. :)
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my son was born still on april 22nd after 37 weeks of pregnancy. you put how i have been feeling into words. im new to this group and it feels good to know im not alone. i stuggle everyday.
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i lost my daughter freya at 41+3 weeks on may 11th 2012 and i understand where your coming from i used to look at her pictures and just sob my heart out but now i look and smile and my beautiful angel ithink your doing amazing we are trying for our rainbow baby now and we will be soo happy when we make freya a big sister and can tell her younger sibling all about her xxx
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I am happy yhat you are feeling better - that is a normal part of the grief reaction. You will know when the time is right to have your daughter's pictures and things on display. You are on a journey, a grief journey, and each step will bring you closed to healing.
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