Spouses of Transgender Community Group
Being transgender it's not easy but neither for their spouses. This group is created with the intention of helping and getting to know others that are in. the same situation or to just educate those that are on the other side of the fence and want to know how does it feel or how would it feel to be a spouse of a transgender person. The main objective of this group is...
So a little about us.
Me and my partner have been together since 2010. We were friends to start with and the relationship blossomed.
About a year later he told me he dressed, now as I'm a open person I took it as I loved this man.
Fast forward a few years and I now do not know where to turn.
We fell pregnant in 2015 so I made the choice to move to his home town with my other children so we could live as a family.
Weeks and possibly days after giving birth I find out he has been on various sites messaging people, sending pictures etc!
Fast forard a few more years and he has done the ultimate and cheated on me... while dressed as a women he met a man yesterday to see if he is gay or no. I have only found out as he had a video of them both on his phone that anyone of the kids could have seen!!
Im hurt, heartbroken, angry and feel sick from all the lies and the fact he has done this!
I have no one to talk to about it as no one knows he is like this!!!!!
Where do I go?, what do I do?, I worship this man but knowing someone else has physically touched him in place only I should makes me feel sick!!!
I have no family where I live and we live in a house that his mum's owns. I have asked him to leave. Which he won't as its his mum's house!....
I love him and I don't see what choice I have but to stay! I know the council won't house me as I have no immediate family living here I will be put in a b and b
I’m so sorry you are going through this. Seeing the video, the loss of trust, this is deeply traumatic!
You can’t change him. Who knows what he will do next. But please take control of the things you can. Take care of yourself and take care of your children. Get some support. You need someone to talk with so you don’t feel so alone and crazy.
A good therapist could help you to clarify your feelings and help you figure out your next steps, regardless of what your partner does.
Take care,
P
It's hard as he knows I hate Liers and I feel that's all he has done for the 8 years we have been together.
I honestly thought the last 3 months things had got better. We was doing more things as a couple. But something tokd me to check his phone and boom another Twitter account set up and the talking to other people hasn't stopped!
Yet again I feel betrayed.... How can I walk away when I can't picture a life without him? Yet I can't keep going through this? I feel trapped tbh. I have already had 1 failed marriage that I walked away from. I really don't want another one!!!