Glad you came here. I get it. Bad days come and go. Unload here all you need.

There are so many times that I've wanted to post on FB, but realized that I really just wanted to let someone know how I'm feeling and how difficult this journey is. I want to feel heard. I want to just scream at the world, "Why is this happening to me?!" I get it.
We're here to listen and commiserate. This is not an easy thing any of us is going through.
How are you feeling today? I find that most days I just have to see one day at a time.

Yesterday was really bad for me. Maybe the stars were misaligned for us SO's. I feel exactly like LeighAnnK said. Sometimes I just need to say it out loud even if there is no one there. Yes, I am going to turn into that crazy person who talks to themself.

Same here, going through a bad patch at the moment too, even though my partner is being extremely loving and kind. Just wish it wasn't happening, feel so so sad.
And yes, I really wish I had someone to talk to, keeping it a secret is one of the hardest things.
Hugs to all.

And there are two parts to keeping it a secret that are hard. The first is not having anyone to talk to and valid you, which is why this group is so helpful.

But the second has no easy solution, and that is trying to pretend like you are fine to all the people who don't know. :(

Gallinarosa, YES! I’m finding the second to be the most challenging right now. Every time that someone I care about asks how I or how my husband is and I lie with the whole “I’m fine” or “nothing is new” crap I feel like a die a little. It’s so hard.

I agree with GR. It is a difficult secret to keep because no one would understand what we are going through. Then we have to lie to friends and family that we are fine when we are screaming on the inside.

The other thing is we may days that we are "accepting" of our spouse. This can go for a few days, weeks, or months. Then something happens- a song, a movie, or something said, and you wonder how you ended up in this situation! My spouse seems to think if I accept the situation, then I have to accept it all the time! Wrong!!

I'm so glad to have found this group and you all understand. You all are amazing.

This is the only group I've found that isn't full of trans people giving their perspective, or partners who are happy and excited that their SO is trans. It's nice to be able to come here and vent or give an update, and not worry too much about what kind of replies you'll get. So often we're forgotten, expected to accept and support our partner being trans without any understanding of how hard this is, because we don't just want to break up.

Yes. 100 percent. I feel like I've really found my outlet with this group. Where is everyone from out of curiosity?

I'm from the Midwest originally, but currently I live in NYC.

Australia here.

And here YS. Wherever we're from, we understand what we're all going through....

It's so fascinating to see that we are so far apart. I'm in the Washington dc area.

Another day of emotional rollercoaster. I seem to have lot all my motivation. Who wants to let out a collective scream of frustration

Yes same here. And somehow he always manages to turn it around and makes it me fault