ive been supportive of my fiance since he came out to me as ftm three years ago. ive seen the posts from women who arent supportive on here and felt like they had it all wrong but im starting to really see where some of them are coming from. my kind, funny, loving girlfriend has turned into this man i dont even really know. hes become selfish and self absorbed. if we fight its all about him and how he feels. i don't even get the chance to talk anymore. we just had a big fight where i was left no other option than to give into him and im still sitting here crying having thrown my ring across the room when the fight ended. i really dont know if i can do this. we are suppose to be saving for a wedding thats suppose to happen in two years but is quickly turning into a fund for his top surgery. i agreed that he should have it before the wedding but at this rate i know there wont be any money for the wedding at all. i cant even talk to him about that because it will turn into a conversation about his "needs" vs. my "wants" where ill be made into some horrible unsupportive woman instead of a girl who is affraid shell never beable to have a wedding at all unless its just signing papers. my girlfriend use to hear me out, discuss everything calmly and care when i was upset and listen to my feelings. all this man does is focus on his own feelings (even when i beg him to let me talk about mine) leaving me to cry alone and torn apart inside. i feel like im not just an after thought but that im not on his radar at all. i can't just call the engagement off because he has a daughter that i have been raising and consider my own id be too scared of loosing her, my family adores him, i want to have kids and im affraid that if i dont start soon then i will never have them, and i keep hoping beyond hope that the person i loved and that loved me is still in there somewhere and that i just have to find them.