Spouses of Transgender Community Group
Being transgender it's not easy but neither for their spouses. This group is created with the intention of helping and getting to know others that are in. the same situation or to just educate those that are on the other side of the fence and want to know how does it feel or how would it feel to be a spouse of a transgender person. The main objective of this group is...
So I haven't been here for a while. My partner had decided that he wasn't trans, are things went back to normal. Now, unsurprisingly his trans feelings are back. I'm so tired of this. Things haven't been great lately. I feel like we're basically just roommates these days. He doesn't have a job and is too depressed to try and find one. Won't go to therapy. We live with my parents. We have a 4 year old and a 4 month old so I'm on maternity leave at the moment, plus looking for a new job. Now he's back to apparently having dysphoria again. I don't ask about it anymore, because he never has any answers. I suspected because of his depression and the fact that he was looking at trans stuff online again.
I always knew it would resurface, even though he was adamant that it wouldn't. A month or two ago this would have made me so emotional, but right now I just don't care. I'm sick and tired of all this, all his crap. I've been trying to just focus on myself instead.
I'm in a similar situation, and it is really difficult not to just throw up your hands and say "I'm done with your shit!" and deal with the fallout later. My spouse hasn't considered de-transitioning, but they are convinced they can't do anything and can't get any help. It's really hard. I can't imagine what it's like with children, We just have pets and financial obligations. I feel that our chances for kids have mostly flown out the window at this point. Dysphoria puts relationships through the wringer. I hate it.
We all know we'll have good days and bad, but a long stretch of bad days is hard to deal with. Sending hugs to you.
I've been watching a lot of therapy videos on Youtube. I really enjoyed this one which talks about an activity that you can do when you are feeling anxious:
https://youtu.be/Q0guTERGPK0