No weird, no. We are all different. I also think many of us are facing other issues rather than 'just' transition. I've actually found I'm not totally averse to thinking of my partner as a woman when we are being intimate - which surprised me a bit. But yes,, it's the ups and downs that most of us are finding hard to cope with. And validating our own feelings, working out how much we actually matter in this all, and yes, where we actually fit. IF we actually fit in all this at all.

Sending you hugs xx

No. Not weird.

I have said numerous times that I think I could have gotten past the transition part. My biggest problem has been the deceit and lack of trust. Additionally, my spouse's personality has changed drastically. Really, though, I can't love and respect someone I can't trust. Additionally, my spouse wants to flirt and date men, and well, I'm just not okay with that - not as long as we were committed to each other anyway.

But that is just me. We all have our own path and what we are and are not comfortable with.

But yes, those ups and downs can be tough, and finding where we now fit can be tough.

Mine doesnt want to be with men unless i am in volved wich i tol him not okay with so he said we can buy toys and as long as he has me he is ok with it. He just seems to be all over thw pkace one minute he wants to be a girl and dress and act like one and then the next he just goes about his everyday as the man i fell in love with i feel like i never know what to expect and when he is a girl its ao over the top i feel like its fake just not sure how to handle it all and what to be expecting and if this behavior is normal or if he is just scared

Not weird at all for me:
1. experimentation by visualizing my spouse as female (mtf) was interesting and fun. once she lost interest in the idea of penetration, or it became apparent that penetration would be a lost cause, I realized damn! i'm going to miss that!
2. I could probably handle her having breasts, even liked them possibly, but if the down below changed, that would have felt like a loss
3. What really destroyed our marriage is like 1newstart said: the fact that my spouse's personality changed with her pronouns. My soon to be ex spouse lied to me when she married me, and this has been made clear by things she's said. She also got controlling and cruel with me. Finally, she favored her sister over me, and this was made clear. I WILL NOT be a sister wife in a marriage. I am monogamous, or not married at all.
4. The strap on was purchased by her months before coming out to me and didn't appeal to me at.all. This would have been a problem if I had stayed married to her.